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I don't understand misogyny at all. What's it all about? If you were homosexual and were raised in an ancient Macedonian army or something perhaps you wouldn't see a mother, sisters, daughters, lovers, work colleagues, neighbors, friends but who lives like that? Boys who live in front of a screen and are too anxious and scared to go outside? Racism I can kind of understand if you only have superficial knowledge of other people and cultures.
Once that testosterone kicks in at puberty women aren't generally a physical threat to men. I don't really understand all the fear of them. Some women are really, really cool. Like serious friend material and lifelong partner stuff.
They don't hate women, they just like to dominate.
80% of car accidents here are caused by wreckless driving by guys.
Guys are more dominant, and dominating women is viewed as misogyny.
Do not misunderstand. There's no hatred for women.
Except in niche cases like my mate that got his heart broken at age 15 when he was fat, then he went on and dated 5 girls at the same time because he didn't trust them. Then basically kept 1 of them and is now in a long term relationship. The one girl never knowing that he did that.
He was raised by his grandparents/single mother.
His dad went on to have a 2nd family where he wouldn't be a deadbeat father. So it's kinda idk.. it's his stuff.
So I guess there can be some hatred for women when it comes to having a broken heart and trust issues. But that's mostly for young guys.
Hating people is mostly a dumb thing to do, but it's not always a choice. You get your heart broken, love turns to hate until enough time passes before it can become indifference and you move on.
Racism.. 14 year olds are idiots. They segregate themselves by how they look and sound like and start fighting with eachother.
Russia phobia π well, they done fucked up didn't they?
What else do we have...
Sinophobia.. scary government bruv
Western phobia.. I'll let LMs write that one out
Phobia's a normal thing, gets eliminated by long term communication
As a fat highschooler, ehen, as a fat woman highschooler, i got rejected so many times. Never once did it make me hate and distrust men. Because every person is their own.
Get fit. Just do it. I started working out when I was 17, been doing for 12 years now. Best investment.
Wrong. Wrong wrong wrong.
https://youtu.be/NNnIGh9g6fA
Please take the time to listen to this lecture. It will genuinely help you and it's very entertaining imo.
Testosterone causes enforcement, not aggression or dominance of women. Enforcement. Sapolsky did a famous study on baboons about this, amd we also have a human example - Buddhist monks who go around "enforcing" peace by chanting and praying etc.
Men hate women because they believe they should, they abuse women because they give themselves permission to do so. No other reason. Anything else is an excuse and justification for it. Read "Why Does He Do That?" By Lundy or "Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist" to learn more.
Bigotry is a product of narcissism, which is based in delusional beliefs. A narcissist may never get better. A racial narcissist example is a white supremacist ("my race is best"), which is obviously delusional, which causes narcissistic supply every time they confront it and refuse to let the delusion be corrected. They then will act out, eg say racist slurs, to enforce their racial narcissism on others to satisfy their brain chemistry (it's deeply uncomfortable to resist unlearning delusional beliefs when faced with evidence, so they satisfy the histamine with adrenaline rushes included by being antisocial).
Le chat:
"Men are statistically more likely to be violent than women, according to various studies and data. This tendency is reflected in higher rates of violent crimes, such as intimate partner violence, murder, assault, and rape, where men are the predominant perpetrators. Several factors contribute to this disparity:
Biological Factors: Evolutionary perspectives suggest that male aggression has been shaped by sexual selection, where men compete more intensely for access to mates. This competition has led to physical characteristics such as larger size and strength, which are associated with greater physical aggressiveness.
Social and Cultural Factors: Social conditioning and societal expectations play a significant role. Men are often encouraged to be aggressive and dominant, while women are typically socialized to be more submissive and passive.
Neurological Differences: Studies using fMRI and EEG have shown differences in brain activity related to aggression. Men tend to have higher amygdala activation during provocation, which is associated with impulsive aggression.
Behavioral Differences: From a young age, boys and girls exhibit different levels of physical aggression. While both genders peak in physical aggressiveness between two and four years old, girls learn to suppress these behaviors more quickly than boys.
Types of Aggression: Men tend to express physical, overt, and direct aggression more frequently, whereas women are more likely to engage in relational and indirect forms of aggression.
These factors combined contribute to the overall higher levels of violence observed in men compared to women."
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4643362/
https://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/men-more-violent.htm
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S187704281200287X
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/behavioral-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnbeh.2018.00081/full
Lol this proves my point, thanks for playing
Who downvoted you lol. But yeah, that's literally just AI.
I use AI to provide a less biased view whenever I talk about subjects I'm not that experienced in.
Because the last thing I want is to be influenced by an extremist.
Edit:
Now now now now, the best thing is communication and not antagonising one another.
But that do be quite a challenge
Narcissism is a scapegoat. Since a narcissist doesn't know they are a narcissist. So the person can never defend themselves against you calling them a narcissist.
The term has been overused in the past few decades. I would only accept it if a well trained psychologist/psychiatrist would claim it about people. Otherwise, just can't trust the source.
Everytime some folks talk about racial supremacy.. they always talk about white supremacy and call it bad. Then I'd just say something like what about Han supremacy? Then they just act like it doesn't exist.
All this bullshit can be fun, but there's a lot of factors at play.
You can't say it's all nurture and no nature. The differences are far too big. In Belgium guys and girls are raised together. The same schools, the same families, the same government funding.
Sure there vast differences between the two female CFO's I've worked for. Same for the male employers I've worked for. The two that showed signs of aggression were both large people. A woman and a man. They physically had the ability to cause damage on someone else.
My mom was the one doing the reckless driving and my dad drives perfectly. Aggression comes from my mom's side of the family and level headedness from my dad's side of the family.
Ah, whatever. It's far too broad of a subject to be definite about. Too many factors at play
Narcissists can know they are narcissists, it's just extremely shameful to them to admit it. What they admit or acknowledge is irrelevant though, as the more important thing is to recognize them because it makes them immediately disadvantaged. Narcissts can't defend themselves because being a narcissist, makes them disadvantaged, because they are delusional. That's fine if a white supremacist is disadvantaged and can't defend himself. That's good. Lol.
I don't care if you accept it or understand it.
There are other type of racial narcissists besides white supremacists. White supremacists are widely studied because of the KKK and the Holocaust, among others, plus the so obvious not being better thing... It's a classic example. Stop defending it, it's obvious you bring up other races so that you, a white supremacist, can engage in your delusions about hating other races and confirm it.
When you're told that white people aren't best, it's irritating you, right? That's histamine, it helps you learn. Brain is literally releasing it so you can change your mind. You've learned to combat this histamine rush with anxiety and adrenaline (the -phobia part of narcissism), and externalizing and confirming your delusions of white people being supreme, so you automatically switch to bashing PoC to create brain connections to solidify the delusion. No one wants to engage with you because you're sick and misinformed and they don't want to make it worse by adding to those connections when you need to clean up and prune other connections first.
Then take hormones and tell us how different you are. Go live as a woman. No one is stopping you. The fact that agender and multigender and intersex people exist shows that these binaries don't exist and if there are hormonal and genetic influences on gendered behavior, why does gender expression change over time and in different places? Why aren't you wearing a white fluffy wig and button up boots? Why don't you have long hair and a dress like Jesus? Are you a fishing guy, a football guy, a soccer guy, a DnD guy, a rock climbing guy, etc - all different expressions of male gender, right? Why is someone with XY genes and complete androgen insensitivity labeled a girl? What gender is someone with Klinefelter's (XXY)?
Aggressive behaviors happen because the person doing them has given themselves permission to do so.
Would your mom act as aggressively in front of her boss or someone she wants to impress? Or is she more openly aggressive in front of her family? And many large people actually have a "gentle giant" reputation, it's just down to whatever that person thinks is an acceptable behavior.
In "Why Does He Do That?" Lundy asks abusers why they didn't keep going. He says something like, "you punched her and shoved her to the ground, why didn't you kick her in the face then? You could've really gotten her good then." And the abuser will look genuinely shocked and say, "I would never do THAT, that could seriously kill her or hurt her." They know. They have control. They would change their behavior if there were witnesses they cared about. They CHOOSE those actions because they give themselves permission.
Yeah I can't take you serious when you call me a white supremacist. When you antagonise people, they won't care about all that much that you say.
Then you call them a narcissist so that you don't have to care.
I am not going to experiment with estrogen, I like muscle.
It's just an ad hominem argumentation. Very low quality
And what kind of ridiculous term is PoC. Trust me, I'm far more anti American than anti Asia/Africa/middle east/south American.
That term just signals me that you're American, and because of that, I actually start being xenophobic against you. Which is quite fun innit.
When I see dead bodies and it's said that it's a russian. Then I won't care.
Bloody fun thing, the human mind.
You are a white supremacist by your own words. Too ashamed to admit it, though, just like I said in my first paragraph.
That's not what ad hominem is.
Sure, you can be a geographical narcissist (xenophobe) too on top of being a racial narcissist. A lot of narcissists overlap but not always, and that's why we get unique narcissistic individuals. Physical narcissists, gender narcissists, intellectual narcissists, etc. Many ways they interact.
And then if I spoke with you about something that is neutral and doesn't trigger your narcissism, like maybe video games, then we'd be okay and we could have a polite conversation. Because narcissism is primarily delusions-based.
Nah I'd prefer being called a European supremacist, can you do that instead? The child in my wife's uterus is going to be Eurasian.
Now we got the choice between raising it in Europe or in Asia and I prefer Europe. Although it depends on where in these two locations. Belgium Vs Indonesia. My main concern is the heat. The rest is fine, but god damn I want my winters.
Everyone has narcissistic traits, we can just call it self esteem. But only a very small part of the population has Narcissistic personality disorder.
It is 50% genetic π so we're back to nature/nurture blabla.
My mom did have quite the symptoms of the disorder. Mainly she thought that everyone was envious of her and that anything someone did was just something to affect her.
Now personally I have different symptoms, it doesn't use other people, it's mainly self esteem stuff like: I can get sexually turned on by looking in a mirror. I think I'm above average intellectually able. I think I make good decisions. I love talking about the details of my life. (I'm also interested in details of others their lives, most people lack the desire to be transparent). I also like talking about details bout anything to be honest. It's just that I know a lot of my own life.
Now. Psychologist puts all of that on "mild autism". Since my dad is autistic.
Now... Call me autist supremacist π literally different brain wiring.
Self-esteem isn't the same as narcissism, whatsoever.
It's not "50%" genetic.
Narcissism is a belief system.
You're boring.
For now, the main contributing factors to NPD seem to be: Genetics
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9742-narcissistic-personality-disorder
Tsk tsk tsk
I'm curious, what's your job?
My job is to portray truthful information so that stakeholders can gain insight.
So I enjoy looking at the information you give me and see if it's correct and if it's the complete picture.
You're quite biased toward nurture and give little regard to nature in this subject.
While it's common knowledge that both are impactful.
Human behaviour. You'll find speakers that talk more about the nurture part. You'll find speakers that talk more about the nature part.
You are biased toward the nurture part, so you will align yourself more with speakers that talk about that. While willfully ignoring the other side of the truth.
We all do this.
It's beautiful
Your own article disagrees with that statement.
There's no gene associated with narcissism and no biological mechanism of action. There's no cure. It's a belief system.
You want it to be nature because you think it will give your behavior a pass. It doesn't.
Everything being legal gives my behaviour a pass. But that's beside the point.
The article does include genetics as well as nurture.
It also states that a lot of it is unknown, so we cannot be definite.
"Several studies from across the world have demonstrated that narcissism is, at least partly, geneticβin fact, according to a couple of studies, the risk of inheriting narcissism is over 50% in some cases. Narcissism, like other conditions under the behavioral genetics umbrella, is often studied using twins."
https://www.charliehealth.com/post/is-narcissism-genetic-the-role-of-genetics-in-narcissistic-personality-disorder#%3A%7E%3Atext=Several+studies+from+across+the%2Cis+often+studied+using+twins.
Guess why the legal system was invented, kiddo
Because we want people to stop doing things we don't want them to do. With we, being whichever group having power.
Nothing I do is illegal, and hence of no consequence.
My life's so fucking easy
Narcissistic delusions
Using a funny word whenever you're at a road block causes growth to stop π
Aight I'll put it on for an hour on YouTube vanced
Edit:
https://youtu.be/yu2oR1YU64A
This guy is of far higher quality.
The video you showed me, god damn.. the rambling goes on and on. Do not pay for his lectures, he's just stretching the hour and giving you no content. Just money money money
This guy (even though you might hate him for being Israeli) is brilliant though. World renowned.
He's been one of the leading neuroscientists and primate behaviorists in the world for decades now. Its not rambling, it's information, and your brain is tired of learning. That's just what learning feels like. Don't you know that by now? It'll take you time to learn. And he's not saying anything about money? He's talking about his research literally. How sad, our planet really has fallen so far in terms of academic discourse. Genuinely disappointing.
Nah he's quite bad at holding my attention unlike Yuval noah harari
I love learning, just it has to be interesting
How truly sad
You externalize your difficulty with learning on the speaker.
Perhaps don't speak then about subjects you can't even learn at an introductory 101 level.
I'mma try that. I'mma sell my services and when a customer isn't happy about the quality of my services (the fella is literally being paid to teach a certain amount of time), then I'm just going to gaslight the customer that they are the ones at fault.
I gave you a substitute for a far better speaker.
I prefer to listen to his new book Nexus.
Do give me a break, this isn't my native language. The quality of communication is rather important in order to transfer information into me.
like YouTube free documentary. That's high quality communication.
He's not a better speaker on the topic of neurochemistry, though.
No, you're making up false claims in this language about these things so how about you learn before you say misinfo.
Education is different than communication. Top level academic info isn't always found in easy little clips. Sometimes it takes effort to understand. Fwiw, Sapolsky has been on Joe Rogan and that meatball was able to understand him and what he said about testosterone so it's a you thing here
There's so much information and so little time, on top of that you need to cycle into periods where you consume less information or you'll just go insane.
So, if you want your information to reach people, do more effort.
When you're an adult learning complicated topics, it's expected you don't need to be hand fed information and in fact will take the time to learn difficult subjects. He doesn't need to make a 101 course easier to learn - 18 year olds regularly can handle it. It's sad you keep excusing your own intellectual sloppiness.
It doesn't improve my ability to gain an income so it is of little importance.
The people in his classroom were mainly wasting their time spending money on his courses while gaining little return on investment.
Yeah, again, you're proving my point thar you aren't an intellectual with every word you say.
Depends on the subject and on how much effort I put into it.
What job do you do? You didn't answer
No means no, creepy
You ashamed?