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I appreciate the thoughtful response. My main takeaway, and what i wanted to make clear: the opinions your parents inbued to you were just that, opinions. You disagreed, you might not have liked your parents for any number of reasons. I certainly don't like my parents, they abandoned me at 18 and became trump supporters. What they didn't do is raise you with a belief in something for the purpose of controlling you from within and without. You are free to disagree with my opinions and observations, but this is something I can tell from the way you speak and your ability to characterize yourself and your experiences growing up. You were not raised to fear a god who demanded obedience. Your parents, while having been flawed as people, did not force their opinions on you without reason like theology would have to be. They might have lacked the capability to recognize the flaws in themselves but they did you a great service by allowing you the freedom to form your own opinions that disagreed with them. This simple fact is something that religious children of religious families struggle with their entire lives.
There are people 50 years old who hated their parents and rejected their opinions but still can't fix the psychological damage that a faith based upbringing inflicted on them. Like, legitimately, I think you are experiencing a life that is completely and radically more liberated than someone raised in a religious household even if the two of you were identical in every other way. It's not a bad thing. I'm happy for you, seriously. I'm just trying to make it clear how having a secular family gives you agency you can't even percieve. It's like privilege in that sense. To you, it is just being. It seems like the rational conclusion one would come to, but without understanding how religion shapes a young mind you can't appreciate just how much freedom you possess simply by having not been exposed to religious doctrine early and frequently enough for it to manipulate your critical thinking into your adult life. That's a privilege that most people don't have, and those who don't have to work tirelessly for years or even decades to overcome their learned biases to reach the same point you or I have been at or past for most of our lives.
I hope that clears up some of my first comment. My intent was not that I was trying to exalt your parents for being atheists, but to applaud the ability to allow you to see for yourself and come to your own conclusions. Conclusions which, seemingly, went against your parents beliefs. This is the thing I was praising. I wanted to point out how much of a benefit that is to you, even if it doesn't feel like it. I hope you're having a great weekend, and I'd be happy to chat in dms if you wanted to discuss more.
I would not have considered it like that back then, and maybe I would not even today but I completely understand your point of view. And that's true. There is certainly a huge difference between the way I was raised by my parents, no matter the other issues, and the way I would have been raised in believing in... something so out of of reach and unquestionable I should fear and bow to.
Still, they were highly destructive in their own way and, my live getting closer to its end than to its beginning I still have not managed to overcome a few of the damages... without any god involved in the process of damaging those things in me. That's what I think is key: it's too easy to think that by not preaching some religion/faith or another one is a better person. That's not as simple.
It does. Thx a lot for taking the time.
Agreed and make no mistake: I fully realize that (it's part of the education I mentioned I received) and for that I'm deeply grateful to them. But my gratitude will end there. For all the rest, I'd rather express no feelings of any kind at all as they would uselessly and mostly be negative. That would serve no purpose.
The same to you. It sure feels great to have a quality exchange. It's not my habit to reach out (mostly because I'm shy), but don't hesitate to reach out if you ever want to discuss anything further.