Transgender

The main thing that changes people mind is in-group stuff. Facts don't usually convince people. But seeing you as someone who's relatable , in their "tribe", that opens doors.

If you shut someone out of your life completely, those doors shut. But if you can keep the "hey we're both red Sox fans" or "I see you every week at the running group" relationship warm, you'll have a better shot. They're not going to listen to some "lib", but their buddy from poker night? He made some good points.

Look at all those times people are like "I hated gay stuff until my son came out." Yeah, it's easy to point and mock how shitty their baseline empathy is, but it's also noteworthy that they did change, and changed because someone they saw as in-group was there.

Of course, some people value their political or religious group more than family, and disown children rather than changing. People are weird. If they're getting a constant stream of shit world view reinforcement from all their other friends, their feeds, and so on, it's an even harder challenge.

Anyway, I guess I mostly agree with you.

It's just exhausting and hard work most of the time.