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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.

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[–] [email protected] 42 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (19 children)

This is absolutely how online dating goes. There have been studies that show women always go for the most attractive guys on the site, despite whatever BS they might claim.

Real life, not necessarily.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 week ago (4 children)

There was a blog by the creator of OKcupid, which was available on the site, that laid all this out pretty clearly. Something like 80% of the women were after 20% of the men, or perhaps it was even worse than that.

Women also, on average, rated men something like 1.5/5, whereas the average for men rating women was almost exactly 3/5.

It was a pretty depressing read actually.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

You have to also look at the fact that men outnumber women on the app overall. It's about 65% men, so women are going to have a bigger pool to reject from. And while it is true that women rate men less attractive, they also put less value on their apperence overall as a factor in dating. It also came out that this was based off of first glance only with no review of the profiles attached to them and, when looking at overall trends, it's more even, (outside of men tending to like young women regardless of their age).

I think the okcupid data also went on about how certain races get more or less attention as well. At the end of the day, both sides can be picky. I think people like to push that data to help with the "80/20" idea to help push this idea that men are now being unfairly judged in comparison to women to help with the gender war narrative.

Edit: Just wanted to add that I don't think that means dating isn't hard for men, but I just don't believe dating websites to be a reflection of real life.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

The racial data was also fascinating, Asian men and black women were shit outta luck, from memory.

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