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(advice, again) i just messaged my gf asking if it would be better to stay friends, scared she will hate me now. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

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i’ll refrain from overposting but i’m a bit scared. kayla (20f) is my gf and (idk if she still is) but was a huge trump supporter. she was quite cruel to me because i first dated her as a trans man and she accused me of sexual harassment after we broke up.

we got back together and have been dating for quite some time (about 11 months) but we barely talk. she only plays video games and talks to her friends, so i barely chat with her, she rarely responds, and i don’t use Discord a lot where i chat with her.

i asked if this would work out and if she would prefer it if we were just friends, but im scared that she’ll accuse me of things again and make harassment/slander of me because i said that

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think you deserve better, and spending time on this person who clearly does not care about you or have your best interests at heart is a waste of your time. it may be best to put some distance between you two, I don't see how giving them opportunity to hurt you more will help.

I'm terribly sorry that this person does not care about you, I hope you can spend your time and efforts on somebody who has your best interests at heart. everybody deserves love, and that includes you.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

is it true that if she says we shouldn’t break up and does not give consent then she is still my gf?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

consent is a two way street, you both need to consent, if you say no more, then that should be the end of it. she cant force you to stay with her this way, and its a common abuse tactic to manipulate people.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

she was fine with it, im trying to remember that 20 year old kayla is not the same as 18 year old edgy kayla