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Banned from comms I haven't posted to in months because I said "Dragonfucker isn't a gender" on another instance
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Neopronouns are not bullshit. But there does need to be some basis by which normal people can understand and utilize them.
Language is not static, and if enough people adopt an alternative set of pronouns, congrats, it's a thing.
Genuine question. Since I don't want to disrespect people, but don't want to validate people mocking real life gender identities.
What is a Neopronoun that isn't a human being wanting to be something other than a human being?
Are there any Neopronouns that involve staying as a human and living in reality?
Most neopronouns are either gender-neutral or specifically NB, and do not make any claims on being other species. Xe/Xer is one of the most common ones - simply being a gender-neutral singular form of 'He/Him', 'She/Her', 'They/Them', etc.
There is an argument to be made for neopronouns. I think the discussion is conceptually valid, even if I hope the simple classic they/them becomes standard.
Personalized neopronouns I'm less certain of the utility of, but I use as a courtesy when asked. I may be short, irritable, bad-tempered, ill-humored, and judgmental, but I'm not going to go out of my way to be a dick. If someone asks to modify some minor matter of my speech patterns to accommodate them, whether for clarity or comfort, I generally try to oblige.
"I am a Dragon rawr, acknowledge me"?
Courtesy has limits.
I mean, I'm not saying they don't have the right to be playful and have fun, but I don't regard the idea that I should be forced to play their game with them particularly positively. And when it starts to dip into serious matters, we have a, well, serious problem. Like Drag insisting that not acknowledging dragons was transphobic - when transphobia is a real and serious issue. I'm not going to treat such assertions with respect in that context.
Fuck, really? Making me go through Drag's comment history? Fine.
https://lemmy.world/comment/15142440
https://lemmy.world/comment/14026077
It's the fact they (including the Blahaj admins) demand everyone else use language in the same way they do that rankles with me.
It's not language being dictated, but it's usage, and I understand that aspect of it.
I mean, besides the obvious "you shouldn't use hate speech," if someone tells me that their pronouns are they/them and I ignore that and just keep using she/her, that would be incredibly disrespectful. It's not about whether it's grammatically valid or not, it's the meaning and intent.
That being said, I think Drag is where I'd draw the line. It's not that I don't respect neopronouns, but rather that I think Drag is an insincere troll. Not to mention that the whole purpose behind neopronouns is to work around the gendered nature of standard third-person pronouns, but mandating that it also needs to apply to the gender-agnostic first- and second-person pronouns makes no sense.