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Itt people haven't had good versions of those things
And can't separate that and personal preference from calling the thing objectively bad, but everyone else is fooling themselves as a joke on them I guess?
Ehh that's just hyperbole and how people talk when they feel like they've been made out to be dumb but are actually validated. Honestly not a huge deal. Obviously, I try not to do that, but most other people do, so I'm used to it.
I understand a lot of where a lot of these people are coming from though. I used to not like stuff and think that was just the way it is, but then you get a good version of that thing and your worldview shifts on what is possible. I think there's a percent of people who do understand a thing, truly, and have compounded disinterests or whatever. Arfid exists, baggage around a thing exists, trauma, etc. So at that point, you gotta kinda just accept that people are weird and difficult, and if you really want to share something nice with people to change their minds, you have to make a show of it or just share something that can bridge the gap for people in hopes it isn't just not gonna work.
I dated this person a while back who said they didn't like coffee, and I got some really really nice espresso from a nice place - super smooth, no burnt taste, very mildly bitter, not very sour, quite sweet, etc. I got them to try, and the face they made was both funny but also sad because it was quite clear they wanted to spit it out. I felt pretty bad, having put something into somebody's mouth they didn't like, so apologized and we talked about it. Turned out, they had arfid and were just a hyper sensitive gremlin and really really liked me, so went WAYYY above and beyond trying something they've never tried before in good faith. It was a pretty positive experience for the both of us and got us talking about all kinds of stuff.
But yeah, people are strange and different and interesting, and, while some people exaggerate their distaste for a thing, on the internet, of all places, I wouldn't take it personally. And if you have a chance to get a cute little autistic grimlin to taste coffee on a date, then sure go for it. Maybe they'll like it, maybe they won't.
I dunno. Thanks for reading my inebriated incoherent rambling at 6am.
Tldr: I'm used to it.