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Today is my best friend's birthday, he lost his battle with depression, alcohol, and religion almost 4 years ago (slrpnk.net)
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I met him in '99 when we were barely more than teenagers playing EverQuest.

Two years later he was the best man in my wedding.

Despite living a country apart, me in Baltimore, him in Seattle, we kept in constant touch. We talked almost every day, we gamed together for years.

Then he hurt his back and he turned to alcohol for relief and comfort. We slowly started to communicate less and less. Daily calls turned into weekly, into monthly. Then his wife left him. When he got out of rehab we picked up where we left off. But it was already the beginning of the end. He struggled with alcoholism until the day of his suicide.

I tried to get him help for his depression, but his family is jehova witnesses, so they just talked to a church person who basically said, cheer up and stop being depressed. He had an extremely close relationship with his mother, and I think if I could have gotten him away from her, and the church I could have gotten him the mental help he needed.

I miss him every day.

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[–] Caption_Mo@reddthat.com 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear that. On the one hand, I can only imagine what he was going through all those years. And on the other hand, there's your own pain and sense of guilt, always thinking if only. My condolences

[–] nocturne@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 week ago

The last year or so i was paying his rent, and a lot of his bills. He was a master electrician and made great money, but he was in to much of a depression to go to work. I tried to get him to move in with me in new Mexico and start his own electrical business.