Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Sounds like you've already taken some great steps!
Of course you're genuine being trans, you are you! You don't need to stress yourself about "transitioning IRL" or outing yourself. Nobody forces you. Whatever you read/hear about other trans people is not a checklist for you, but inspiration, a mere suggestion. You should do what feels right for you, when it feels right for you. If outing yourself to coworkers or family doesn't feel right (yet/ever), just don't.
You don't need to push yourself to bravery. At some point, the consequences of outing yourself might simply feel minor compared to the consequences of not doing so. You might say "I've been called a 'he' my whole life without feeling dysphoric, it can stay that way"; but with each dopamine kick of being called a girl also comes that graving when you're not.
compare with @Bryllyg's comment in this thread
She didn't mean "hmm, I'm ready to take some risk" but rather "putting on a facade and not outing myself does more harm (to me) than accepting those risks and consequences"
If you think you'd like the benefits of HRT, you can start that before/without outing yourself. If people call you out in your grown chest, they might already be more susceptible to accepting you as a woman. Alternatively go "can we not talk about my body".
Maybe we've all misunderstood your question and you meant to ask if presenting yourself as cis is not genuine? Hmm, well strictly speaking, at least to a certain degree: yes. But it's not malicious, and it's socially accepted.