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[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 18 points 2 days ago (4 children)

If you're autistic, look between the eyes while talking.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is actually a fairly well known acting technique. Avoiding direct eye contact helps suppress your own natural reaction to saying uncomfortable things the real you wouldn't say.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 days ago

Yeah. In this context, it's a masking technique.

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Better to look at one of their ears. Left or right, it doesn't matter.

Really freaks them out.

[–] argarath@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why would that freak someone out?

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Because humans are pretty good at recognizing where you're looking. If you're staring intently at someone's ear while you're talking to them, it will look to them like you're seeing something behind them. The fact that you're not looking away will cause them to be concerned about what it is.

[–] argarath@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Huh, neat. I'll try that next time to mess with my brother lol

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Yeah. I learned about it from my father in law.

[–] zanyllama52@infosec.pub 3 points 2 days ago

I'm not autistic, but I do this in some situations. Otherwise, directly in the eyes.

[–] ExperimentalGuy@programming.dev 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why not switch between the eyes?