Came across this community in my feed, and after browsing a bit I'm intrigued.
As an "outsider", I would have assumed this place would be about enjoying a childfree lifestyle, but it seems to be more than that.
For example, I see lots of posts and comments that seem to allude to extinctionism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Voluntary_Human_Extinction_Movement
That caught me off guard since I figured this place would be more like "look at all this free time and money and freedom I have to enjoy my life to the fullest in any way I want". Now I'm curious.
It seems like there's a whole spectrum of ideas that are getting lumped into the same bucket. What's your take? What brought you here?
I was going to get married, we disagreed on having children; I wasn't against it and I wanted to be financially stable beforehand. I also didn't want to be solely responsible for finances either. I had already been working hard while someone wasn't in half of the relationship. Taking care of bills, transportation, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry for two, so on and so forth. I felt like I was solo leveling life for two after a few years. I didn't want to get myself deeper in this mess. We met in college and dated for about 6 years. at that point I said, no thank you.
After that I ended up working in education. That's when I chose not to have children.
One day we go on a field trip to an ice skating rink, I took care of this little girl as she was smaller than the rest. Skates on, helmet on, and I held her hand while we skated in the center so she didn't get hurt. And I thought huh this might not so bad. On the way back she told me how her daddy thought it was funny to hit her. So there's my first CPS report. There was only horror story after horror story after that. I got heavy into drinking because I couldn't fathom how people could do the things, I won't write about, to kids.
That shit still haunts me everyday over a decade later. So I'm happy being single and not having children. Also in this economy? lol
Fuck, I hate that CPS stories are such a commonality ....pretty much everywhere π« Even my story now that I think about it...wtf?! ... π«π₯Ί
π«π₯Ί I wish that poor girl and you the best π₯Ίπ«
...But DAMM we have got to make this stop. When do we FINALLY make these stories stop?!