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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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It's not new. It's been a thing for thousands of years. The reason it seems new now is because a bunch of assholes repressed it with violence. Some of us had our identities repressed with violence when we were young, and some of us are still in situations like that. If someone reacts badly to being misgendered, instead of assuming they're some kind of bad example to be avoided, try to understand where they're coming from and why what seems like a silly little accident on your part can at time be hurtful to others. That's not to say there won't be some real immature people or outright bad actors, but a little understanding can go a long way.
You already use them. You use them all the time and don't even think about it. It's not that complicated. It's literally elementary school stuff. If you're genuine then people will notice and great allowance can be made for mistakes.... but sometimes the reasons people serve up for why they keep getting it wrong start to sound less like apology and more like justification. Try not to fall into that trap.
"but since this is kinda new... " I was referring to custom pronouns.
"Pronouns essentially make... " I was also referring to custom pronouns.
Which is what this post is about.
Do you have any idea how rare those even are, let alone how rare it is to find someone who uses them who'd jump down your throat if you got it mixed up the first time? Who in your life has put you on the spot about that? What community has excommunicated you for this? Ae you just making up scenarios in your head to get mad about?
I'm not mad and this thread is specifically about neopronouns. I haven't been put on the spot about this but my wife has.
Well it sure was nice of you to show up in a thread about how hurt and frustrated someone is about people not using their pronouns, to tell us why it's actually their fault because one time someone wasn't nice to your wife.
I'm not continuing this conversation.