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[–] Complexicate@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

That’s masking, and it’s harmful to you - the energy you have to spend to maintain that will eventually lead to burnout. Speaking frombitter experience here.

Yes and no. If they are straining or pretending, then yes. The first part, about them trying to see what other people want, can be very draining. But the other part, about simply asking questions, can be very healthy.

If a person with red-green colorblindness is constantly straining to try to tell the difference between the colors, that can be unhealthy. If they pretend their eyes are perfect and they can see colors easily, they will have multiple problems.

But asking someone you trust to tell you what the color is, can help everyone involved. And figuring out a no-stress way of asking, can be beneficial.