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My recently widowed father (72) is planning a trip across the country to meet a woman who he claims called him by accident and with whom he has since built a romantic (remote) relationship. Here's what he's shared with me:

  • He received a "wrong number" call from a woman that led to a number of other conversations online and on the phone that started to take on a romantic tone.
  • He believes she is real because he has checked her out online, including validating that she is indeed the CEO of her company, is 40 years old, and is originally from Taiwan. Haven't seen this myself.
  • She says she runs this company with her brother in Canada and her father back in Taiwan. The details of the company were not clear to me.
  • They have exchanged photos but not video because her webcam is not working.
  • He is planning a trip to Los Angeles (from the East Coast of US) in a few months to meet her in person. She said her driver will pick him up at the airport.
  • No money has been asked for or sent, according to him.

This is obviously a scam, right? But, without there being an ask for money I can't figure out the angle and haven't been able to convince him to disengage.

It is either going to be an ask for money to help her overseas family or a "can't lose" investment in her company. I'm guessing she'll back out of the travel plans last minute so they never meet OR he's going go there and have his organs harvested.

Does anyone recognize this scam? What should we expect next? Has anyone else successfully talked their elderly loved ones out of one of these?

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[–] ChunkMcHorkle@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Hey OP, don't know if you've seen this because it just came out today, but it's another deep dive into the world of pig-butchering scams. As soon as I read it I thought of your post:

Trafficked, beaten and raped: raids reveal scale of abuse of women in Asia’s cyberscam centres -- The Guardian, June 29, 2026

If your dad really is the target of a pig-butchering scam, it's likely that any woman on the other end of this is not doing it by choice but living in horrific, brutal conditions, unable to leave, and of course will never see any of the money he sends. As others have said, the scammers will hire models, or even use other trafficking victims, to do any video or photo proofs required. There is no upside.

I don't know if this kind of argument would reach him, but I'm giving you the link just in case you can ever use it: the lives of these women trafficked into this kind of scam work are beyond horrible, and the faster you can educate your dad on the reality of it, the better. Also, it might help if you could arrange for him to see this thread: there is a lot of power in seeing almost a hundred comments all saying the exact same thing. Best wishes to you both.