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fem guys already relate to content targeted toward women since their lived experience is closer to that than to the typical man, so no exclusion.
men often do this. post is about something women related -> "but what about the men?". we don't have a duty or obligation to include men in every single conversation. men can also create their own content/conversations, and they should. hijacking/inserting themselves just reeks of insecurity and misogyny.
edit and just to be clear: anyone who finds this post relatable is more than valid and welcome, regardless of gender. it’s just the act of explicitly turning it into a “won’t somebody please think of the men?” thing that really grinds my gears.
Shit like this makes my blood boil... "oh, you're struggling with acceptance and your identity? Well, people ridicule you for not adhering to what boys should be, but the best we can do is offer you stuff targeted at girls because, you know, you're essentially a girl anyway". Fuck that. And then telling me about misogyny. Ridiculous.
This isn't a female safe space. Posting something here that deliberately leaves out half the population and then complaining that people bring up the stupid line you're drawing between boys and girls where none is necessary is laughable.
Yes, it fucking is. It's a safe space for everyone. That's literally rule #1 in this place. Feel free to take a week off from here to learn how to be respectful.
They never said "the best we can do is offer you stuff targeted at girls because, you know, you're essentially a girl anyway", you did. If you think there should be more stuff for certain men, you're free to make it. If not all men relate to that content, I hope they are more capable of nuance than you seem to be. The idea that relating to the experience of another group somehow takes away from your actual identity is not how someone who has a normal relationship with their identity would work.
I date women as a woman and sometimes men will be talking specifically to other men about dating women and I will find what they say relatable. It does not make me question my gender or sexuality. I just think "wow! So true!" and move on with my day.
It's ok to have a similar experience or understanding of the world as someone else, even if they are not talking directly to or about your personal experience.
They are not drawing a line. You're welcome to comment what you like, but this is straight "so you hate waffles?" level of reasoning.
This isn’t a female safe space? Holy shit, way to tell on yourself.
It’s not just men here and this community isn’t a male safe space either. It’s a shitposting community and you couldn’t handle a woman making a post about a woman’s perspective.
Is it a safe space or is it not a safe space? Because you seem to be claiming both in one comment.
Don't gender it, it's either a yes or a no. Is it a safe space for all genders, or not a safe space for any gender?
It’s a safe space for both. It’s not a “male safe space” any more than it is a “female safe space”.
Okay, so now that's clarified
This is so fucking funny lol
I mean if you reread your last couple comments, you'll see you contradicted yourself at least twice in as many comments. That is funny.
Feel free to share. Where have I contradicted myself?
If you can't see the contradictions here then I don't know what to tell you...
"It's one. It's not the other. It's both. It's neither."
Okay...
Oh, I thought I had clarified this already with you. You already agreed with me.
"It’s a safe space for both. It’s not a “male safe space” any more than it is a “female safe space”."
And the mods agree with me.
It's either both or it's neither, unless you want it to be gendered and exclusive.
Quite right. I would also say there is definitely a stigma to men who do not present as fem doing the occasional fem thing, and it is more of a stigma than when a woman who generally presents fem doing the occasional male thing.
Way less, in my experience, than ever before, but definitely still there. You get less open mockery and more silent confusion these days.
Yeah a girl without makeup in a hoodie and sweaters wouldn't really raise eyebrows as much as a guy in a dress and makeup, I would bet money on that. Perhaps not as much nowadays but I'm sure it still very much exists.
Especially if you live in rural areas instead of a large city. Probably people living in L.A. etc. can reasonably disagree with this, but in general.
"fem guys" are not even the majority of guys with so called feminine interests.
It's not about a "duty to include" but there is a reasonable expectation not to exclude when there's no good reason to.