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Im grateful I was finally able to commit to getting a divorce. Took over a year of holding out before coming to this conclusion. Im optimistic I can have a better life once this is all behind me. Sadly im sure this will be the hardest year of my life at the same time. I know ill be so much happier once its over. I used to have an amazing life before her, also with her for several years as well. Once it got to kids and money and disagreements though everything fell apart. I can't wait to do all the things i never got to or expected to like some traveling or random trips or just going out whenever I feel like.
Stay strong, bud. My best friend separated from his wife ten years ago, and he was in the dumps for a couple years, but now he seems happier than ever. He lost a lot, but built a new life for himself from a good foundation. He moved from a small town suburb to a major city a couple hours away and can enjoy things happening in his city. Lots of concerts, bars, farmer markets, etc. Maybe ask yourself if you're interested in a big change like that.
Thanks, this is exactly what I am going for. I feel awful since she makes me feel like I'm abandoning them and deep down I sort of think that. But the truth is for years now she has drove me to the brink with nonsensical arguments, and finally just stopped paying her share of the monthly bills for about a year now with me begging for it and has now lead us to bankruptcy. I say whats the point at this point, im not sacrificing my retirement or future for this. My friends and family all agree and of course now that this is happened they all had felt negatively against her but kept it to themselves. It makes me feel better knowing it's definitely not me. I have always wanted to live closer or in a city and thats my plan after this. I will absolutely be living the life i wanted and make up for the time i lost (16 years). My friends are already putting together stuff to celebrate haha.