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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 31 points 3 days ago (5 children)

"Don't care what other people think about you"

Sounds like permission to be an asshole.

I understand what it's trying to say, but assholes don't mind borrowing the mantra.

[–] KombatWombat@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I read a book a while back called "The Courage to be Disliked". That title could be used for some manosphere nonsense but it was instead an overall positive book about determining your self-worth based on your own honest evaluation of yourself, with the goal of improving things that you otherwise make excuses for. It was helpful to me as someone who's been a people pleaser with low confidence. Hearing that mantra reminds me of it. I think it's certainly not universally applicable, but it can be good advice for the right person.

[–] Libb@piefed.social 9 points 3 days ago

I get what you're trying to share, which makes a lot of sense, but now reframe it in a different context (just an hypothesis, obviously not an affirmation) : you live surrounded by assholes (say, racists ones), should you mind what they think about you (not being a racist)?

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 3 points 3 days ago

seeking other people's approval constantly also makes you an asshole

[–] IAMgROOT@lemmy.wtf 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

if you care what people think about you, you become a masked compliant normie

[–] IAMgROOT@lemmy.wtf 3 points 3 days ago

(masked as in masking autism/adhd/etc and ICE)

[–] Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk 2 points 3 days ago

I'm with you on this one, OP. Selfish, litter-dropping, swearing-in-front-of-kids, loud-music-playing motherfuckers don't care what other people think and they accelerate the erosion of community. Community is how we defend each other from the inevitable shit that is heading our way.