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It can be platonic, familial, romantic, anything.

I’ll start: I recently moved in with my boyfriend, who lives with his wife and their son. They were already separated when we met, but his wife doesn’t want to divorce or move out, and she wants their son to live with both of them. My boyfriend agreed to those terms.

So now I’ve found myself in a pretty unusual situation…

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[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

The crazy thing is. I almost didnt message them on the forum. Crazy how life is like sometimes

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 3 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Met mine on discord. I wasn't looking and was married to someone else. We we're good friends and he helped me through the divorce. A year later we said "what's the worst that could happen?" And I moved across the US lol.

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 hours ago

Mine on reddit. r/cuteguys :3

[–] Rhaedas@fedia.io 11 points 16 hours ago

I met my wife 40 years ago simply from a casual message that I could have missed or ignored. The thing you have to remember is, it's not that you had some destiny together that you almost lost out on, but that it's simply how things worked out, and if you're happy with it, it worked well.

See Tim Minchin's "If I Didn't Have You" song.