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Kids pretty old to not tell them about your past.
Do parents tell their kids about their pasts like that?
Not in my experience. I've pieced some things together, but unless I directly asked or it was relevant like medical history, my parents don't really talk about their childhoods.
Your dad not being your biological father is medically relevant. Not saying the kid was unaware of that though.
Nothing in this comic necessarily implies that the dad isn't the kid's biological parent, though.
If they are trans and the FATHER in the couple then they biologically can not be the actual father. Either they are the "mother" of the child or their partner is the mother and they used a doner. That's how reality works. A case of they are the dad, not the father.
Either that or they where treated as a girl growing up and forced to wear dresses and that's why they are sad. And this is a dad joke to cover for childhood trauma of abuse. Which is an entirely equal possibility in reality.
Which is why I said biological parent and not father.
Opposite expirence my parents and grandparents all talked about growing up and their childhoods a lot
Usually not, maybe later, shame and whatnot (substitute drug use for a realistic comparison).
ETA I did tell (feel free to guess what, you're probably wrong) when my kid hit the twenties, and gave relevant hints along the way so it wasn't a surprise, which were not delved into by kiddo by their choice. But it's a personal choice (medical issues aside) and extremely personal in it's implementation and down to cases. This is personal morals, not societal ethics.
Back off (not OP, reasonable query, just everyone, not your business and it shouldn't be, unless there's harm, sensitive stuff that takes careful handling, this is one of the reasons why privacy should be a right).
Many will make mistakes here, and that's OK if done in good faith. time will heal. If you're a bigoted ahole (either generation) maybe less so, but even that can happen, give it a chance.
They may learn stuff about drugs somewhere, its not usually in the classroom.
Better to have a conversation about it in the house and give your child the information to have a better understanding.
At least that's my opinion.
I too am worried about my children overdosing on HRT and becoming addicts.
Remember kids HRT can completely change who you are, one day you’ll wake up, look in the mirror and see a completely different person looking back at you. Is that really what you want to happen?
Dysphoria Alignment Remedy Education; D.A.R.E.
The dad, probably: Don't care, should've asked.