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This sounds extremely implausible. Those activities should have a wide, fairly random, selection of attractiveness. Sports might favor people more physically fit, which is positively correlated with common ideas of attractiveness.
Maybe you're using some non-standard or idiosyncratic standard of attractive?
On the other hand, maybe you live in hell?
The attractive people involved are already coupled.
physical fitness has nothing to do with attractiveness. lots of unattractive people are super fit, and lots of attractive people are unfit.
I live in a city full of wealthy entitled people, who think they are superior to others by birthright and what college they went to, and who won't talk to you if you don't work for a fortune 500 company.
It is also extremely implausible that this is 100% true. Unless you were going to events that select for couples, you're going to find a mix of relationship states.
People generally find healthiness attractive. Fitness is correlated with healthiness, and this somewhat correlated with attractiveness. Tastes differ. But generally, people are not going to find "can't run up the stairs without wheezing" more attractive than "can run"
Very few cities are so homogeneous. Don't dox yourself but what do you feel comfortable sharing about what city this is? I find it extremely unlikely that the entire city is full of people who only talk to fortune 500 people. Do all the wait staff and service workers exist in silence and depart the city at dusk?
Sounds like you're putting up barriers blocking your own success, mostly.
yeah, clearly a random stranger on the internet knows more about my own life and my own life experiences than I do.
The wait and service staff live 2 hours away. My dog walker has a 1.5 hr commute from the rural part of the state. It's the same story in any major USA coastal city. The central neighborhoods all have median incomes in the 150K+ range for single people, and couple shave incomes well over 250K. Homes cost well over a million dollars, and the average rent for a 1bed apartment is 3200/mo. Only rich people can afford to live here.
I make 150K a year, own a modest condo, and I am considered 'poor' because the expected income for a desirable man is 300-500K a year.
Yikes where hell state you live in where 150k a year is considered poor? You have a dog walker. No offense but you sound richy to me.
You sound absolutely delusional, so, yeah maybe.
I don't know what city you're in, but the median income in NYC is like $85k and there is a wide range of people here.
Don't try to date the kind of person who expects $400k/year? In all my years of dating I don't think I've ever met someone with that expectation, and that's probably for the best.
Self-created incel-hell it sounds like...