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Online dating is a bit of a misnomer. It's not dating. It allows people to optimize selection based on superficiality, and stops anyone from from getting to know anyone. It's also high stakes because arranged meets with matches are purpose driven.
Put it down. Turn it off. Go do something you love and meet people. All sorts of people. Have fun, casually. Somewhere in there, you'll find someone special.
(Not directed to you OP, just online daters in general)
This feels overly pessimistic, I met my current wife online and there's zero chance we would've bumped into each other IRL. I know the apps have gone to shit in terms of monetization and gamification but there are still real people out there who use them.
One small problem: Almost no third places in my local area.
Pubs n Bars?
I hate alcohol.
Alcohol-free drinks have existed since the Victorian era
Ya got to make your third places (great words of encouragment).
Although in my case its tabletop games... That one sorta awards negitive points.
Choices abound. Make one, move, stretch your legs a bit?
What is your city I will find you some
You're trying to dox me, aren't you?
Not at all, just trying to be helpful
Not everyone lives in cities
Sure I just meant like closest city to you
A hobby is the best way to meet someone.