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That's not necessarily arguing, unless you're continuing to engage repeatedly. This is really where you stop, if you even choose to engage at all. Have your say, make it count, move along.
If you genuinely care about a subject/topic/opinion, that first reply counts for 99% of your reach/impact. The second time you reply, it counts for 0.99%, the third time you reply, it's like 0.099% ROI and so on.
After that first one, the juice is not worth the squeeze and the young folks are saying these days.
If your social media outlets of favor are anything like Lemmy, most of the people you see with edgy content or making edgy comments, they aren't serious people. They aren't here for serious discussion or open minds, even if it is a serious topic.
It's easy to say, I realize, but you have to learn to let it go. Literally nobody cares. Probably even the person you're "arguing" with doesn't care, other than it gives them sexual pleasure to get attention from a rando online.
Also, don't fall into the fallacy that the one who speaks last wins. If the person you're debating is just serving up leftovers from the overly salty stale dinner with no substance that they prepared last night, it's okay to leave the table. You literally are winning, no matter what, by not eating that same slop that you already know is bad.