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I’m basically living with this guy now. I keep saying “guy” because it feels too soon to call him my boyfriend or say we’re actually dating. It’s still kind of a getting-to-know-each-other thing, but we’re also fucking and pretty much living like a couple lol.

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[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 15 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?

Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.

My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.

Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.

[–] violet08@lemmy.today 2 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, it’s very fast, I know. But it’s something I’ve always wanted to do and couldn’t in my past relationship (2024-2026). We were living in the Gulf, and my ex was living with his family, so that came with a lot of restrictions (Muslim background, family expectations, etc.).

This guy actually wants me here, and I’m in a position where I can do it, I don’t have a job right now, online school is more of a formality like I mentioned before, and my parents support me financially. So I’m not really tied down by anything, and I just took the opportunity, lol.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 points 11 hours ago

Yeah that doesn't make it less bad of an idea, actually probably worse of one.

Have fun. Don't get killed. Bail when it starts going south. Learn from the experience

-an experienced older slut

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 1 points 15 hours ago

That's a fling, then. It could develop into something different, but that's all it is at the moment.