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[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 6 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Being Gen X it was pretty free range at my house. But probably the biggest irritation was having plans made for you. Doesn’t matter what it was, some kind of work that needed to be done or something. Hated having a plan in my head for the day or whatever and the parents would be “nope, you’re gonna be doing ‘x, y, and z’…” with no warning. MF why u wait until I have something to do to tell me?! Also, the power to make my own decisions. My parents made a lot of decisions for us without our input or knowledge, so it made decision making kinda difficult when we got out on our own. Something as simple as getting a bank account or choosing what classes we took in school. Unfortunately having to escape a verbally abusive narcissist of a parent was huge plus.

So yeah, mostly having control over my own plans and agenda, getting info and making decisions. I say “mostly” because life still throws shit at you that’s out of your control sometimes.

Edit: ITT - wow. Reading the other replies = a lot of people with shitty parent problems. Ouch.