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Original wording (Cantonese): "你一食葯就会食到老嘅啦“ (Once you start, you will need to continue till you get old (aka: till your death))

Oh okay mom... "唔食藥而家死咗就唔使到老囉" (If I don't get medicated, I die now and no need to get old) (didn't actually say it, but really want to)

This culture is gonna kill me 😭

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[–] lIlIlIlIlIlIl@lemmy.world 39 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Does Mom wear glasses? She shouldn’t, she’ll rely on them forever.

Does Mom wear a jacket when cold? She shouldn’t, she’ll rely on one forever.

Does Mom wear shoes…?

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Oh she keeps talking about "side effects" of medications...

I guess she'll find out real soon the "side effects" of depression (like having to attend a funeral of your son who loved you)

[–] lIlIlIlIlIlIl@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There is so much to life beyond this. So much that this will seem insignificant, maybe even silly.

I truly hope you make it there, and stop living for someone else

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Logically I want to live

Emotionally I have an attachment to my mom (plus finanical dependence)

Emotions are irrational

Attachment is irrational

Its a chemical

Just like depression

I don't think free will exists

If the chemicals in my brain are telling me to jump off a bridge... there's no way for me to stop it...

its just chemical...

You can't tell a computer to "just don't fucking shut down, stay booted", when you deleted system32, when systemfiles are corrupted...

[–] lIlIlIlIlIlIl@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Have you exercised today? If not get off the internet and do it now

[–] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I know you are trying to help but i have never known such commentary to do any good towards a depressed person.

At worst it can even make them worse because now the depression is their own fault for not exercising enough.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 3 points 6 days ago

While I get what you mean and the person you are replying to was very flippant about it, there are studies that show moderate exercise outdoors (going for a walk) to be as effective as chemical antidepressants.

I am currently in a deep depression and on SSRIs and my doctor told me about those studies. Yes it's hard to get outside, but the positive effects of sunlight + moving your body on depressed people are scientifically proven. And it can be helpful to know that going for a walk is actually useful and not a waste of time. It won't cure a depression, but the positive effects shouldn't be dismissed either.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Aaaah no energy

I like to do "chill" stuff like just slowly walking in a park... but um... the sun is already setting so maybe tomorrow (it's now 18:52)

Don't wanna get abducted in the dark lol...

Takes a lot of energy to just put on clothes and go outside... germophobia... to anxious of ourside...

Wait wtf why do I wanna die and also germophobic...

wtf brain.exe? So I'm afraid of dying and wanna die? The fuck?

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Sounds like you don't want to die, you just don't want to live the way you're currently living. But, don't listen to me, I don't jack from shit.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Do you have anyone besides your mother and online friends to interact with on a regular basis? People you like to be around, I mean? Genuine question, I am not trying to be a dick.

[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

Yes! Same with cholesterol or blood pressure medications. If you need them, you should use them...