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I call into question your claim that most aren't like that. But even if most aren't, it's what the community is known for.
If you don't like what the community is known for, you have options. You can try and fix the reputation, you can deal with being stereotyped, or you could just be a person who doesn't masturbate, and not part of a specific community.
I don't think there's a fourth option where you get to be part of the community, which is known for being horrible, but everyone just magically knows you're not one of those ones.
Personally, I've chosen option 3 for most of my proclivities. I don't drink, but I'm not part of AA because of their religious craziness. I don't eat meat, but I'm not out here supporting PETA.
I explicitly stated in my previous response that I'm not part of that community. I'm just an individual dealing with an issue, and I have compassion for all the other individuals facing the same thing - people who are too ashamed or afraid to seek help or even tell anyone about it. Seeing the response it gets here, even from folks who probably pride themselves on being empathetic and compassionate - yeah, I don't blame those people for staying silent.
This isn't about supporting a community or pushing some ideology. It's about raising awareness that real people struggle with this stuff. It's not sexual shaming or defying God - it's about taking back control of their own lives. As with anything, the dose makes the poison. Nobody I've talked to about this thinks porn or masturbation is inherently bad - they're just the kind of person who takes it too far, to the point it starts causing real harm in their life. They don't have an agenda. They need help, and I feel for them.
If even a single person feels seen by my comment - the one that gets downvoted into oblivion by the haters - and gets even the tiniest sliver of help or hope from it, then it was 100% worth it.