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I've come to believe the biggest problem with humans' speaking is that most NTs and verbally avg ppl are super sloppy with grammar and semantic logic when they speak because theyre dumb/lazy enough rely solely on others empathy or intuition for their meaning to get across.
I'm constantly noticing others' doing things like:
making mistakes is not morally wrong but doubling down on them is.
"it's not that deep"/"don't overthink it" type of responses are a type of gaslighting and even victim-blaming because you were at least inconvenienced by their mistake.
I think "dumb/lazy" isn't the correct terminology to describe them. I think the more correct term would be ambiguous. It seems to me that most people aren't as concerned about the true meaning of a word, they're more concerned with the big picture. So to them using a word that isn't exactly correct is not a big deal as long as they can get the big picture across.
I think for them it is more about efficiency than it is about choosing the correct words.
that's really "generous" considering many of them (very possibly most of them) would ostracize or ignore us because of our careful communication.
if they saw this thread, it's indeed less than smart of me to call them dumb, but it's really an expression of desire for retribution, at least socially/intellectually etc, as opposed to sincere intent to stroke them all with the same mental deficiency brush.
speaking of poorly employed phrases, ⬆️there's a bit of round-holed square peg for y'all, plus a hint of misplaced innuendo.
Since being a fully developed adult i more and more discover that i am full of phrases that i picked up/copied with intonation included but that i don't actually understand and can’t really grammatically dissect to understand either.
The problem is i interpreted many of them a wrong way, so I believe i am expressing x as being helpful/friendly, but they understand y as mocking them or something completely different.
i have some similar experiences.
btw just to tangentialize,
is a great skill for learning tonal languages like Chinese (Mandarin, Cantonese, etc), Vietnamese, Thai, etc!