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Confused and conflicted. My first long term relationship was with a woman where we realistically had little chance of a future -- she had become unemployed during our time together, and she didnt see any reason to get another job for the two years it dragged on for after that. Then she started saying I, as the guy, should pay for a house for us to move into together, even though it's unrealistic for a regular guy to buy a house in his early adulthood, especially on a single salary.
Shortly after that, she had what I can only describe as some sort of mental break down. She started claiming she was an angel from another planet, and that her time playing mmos was preparing her for the true reality that every person is just an avatar and shit. She started self-harming/cutting. I couldn't support her in this, and I couldn't really see a clean way to get her help other than informing her immediate family (who all sorta noped out of helping). She still continued to imply I should be buying us a house together etc, which I absolutely couldn't do, nor would I want to cohabitate with a nutter. So we split.
Saw her months after the breakup for coffee/catchup, said she was training to be an exorcist through some shady guy who was paying her $5 a day to take care of his severely disabled parents. She implied exorcisms were done through certain sexual acts sometimes. So she seemed like she was clearly getting seriously taken advantage of due to her broken mental state.
Felt bad for her, glad that I'd 'dodged a bullet'. Though really the scars from that whole thing likely contributed to the reason I'm an old single person who's noped out of dating ;p