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Not consciously, I guess, but the mechanism of anxiety isn't rational. If it was, I would have put the anxiety and questions like this behind me a long time ago.
Right. Being potent and always ready for sex felt like a requirement specific to men, but I guess women are also subject to unreasonable norms related to performance and sexuality.
Women very much worry about all sorts of things related to sexual performance.
I’m gonna be real with ya - I’m 40 and have been a self-described slut for a long time. I love sex. I love sex with other people (men and women). It’s great.
I’ve never felt let down or disappointed when I’ve been with a man who, for whatever reason, didn’t stay hard during our time. It happens! There’s so many things going on and it’s easy to let one area of focus slide.
Most people aren't going to be too bothered by this because they’ve probably been through something similar.
People really don't appreciate how many biological processes need to work correctly to even achieve an erection. Even just one being off can make it not happen.
Shit, even using your leg muscles too much can cause you to lose it.
Yep!! And it’s similar for women - we can lose arousal easily if our mind isn’t fully focused on sex.
Keeping the goal of sex as just having fun and making your partner feel good is important. Climax is nice, but not necessary to have good sex.
Exactly. I'm on antidepressants, plus my testicles don't work so getting an erection can be a struggle.
But I sure do love getting the opportunity to use my tongue to get my wife there.
Thank you for sharing! Very valuable perspective!