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I know I already replied to you in another comment but I posted a big breakdown of how trans healthcare for kids actually works and isn't as scary as people think. If you are interested just check my post history. I Included the actual less destructive nature of horomone treatment during puberty in regards to the total number, invasiveness quotient and surgeries experienced later in life. But surgery isn't really a thing for trans kids.

A lot of what you are experiencing with trans discourse is a poisoned well. The issue of trans health care has been sold to the masses as being too quick, lead by the whims of the child, involving a lot of medically scary things that seem irreversible and it operates in a weird blind zone where people don't really understand trans people's biological capabilities well or their psychological dispositions.

In some places it can be good to step back and ask where your opinion is actually coming from because this is a very convoluted and non-intuitive branch of medicine for a casual outsider. Parents of trans people and young trans people themselves essentially learn decently advanced pediatric and endocrinology concepts as part of the basic consent process and as a parent of cis kids that is going to seem a lot more scary without an individual personal proof of psychological benefit you get from seeing a child develop.

Here is the very common trans parent scenario :

Your child who has had massive anxiety all their life, They have stress related physical symptoms, they have neurotic behaviours that appear as psychological disorders, they get sick often and are withdrawn from social groups and have a hard time making friends.

You discover your child identifies as trans and asks to go by a different name. You adjust, you change their hair and clothes. Almost immediately health conditions you didn't know were related start to clear up, nervous ticks evaporate. They start forming better and stronger attachments to peers. They start showing more verve for life and pursuing hobbies and sports. The behaviour is so startling and overwhelmingly positive it is impossible not to link it to that choice.

It really is the case where the science and care plans aren't super intuitive for someone just dipping their toes in this water. If you don't have a trans kid then chances are good you haven't seen the day and night psychological changes to thriving from not thriving that social transition brings. It's a process and parents know their children. Parents, as a general rule, don't sign onto things that seem scary unless they are convinced. A psychotic parent also would have a really hard time getting a cis kid through trans healthcare because there's a panel of experts that check all the angles from school and home life to a lot of developmental markers. Doctors treat children's long term outcomes as sacrosanct so the burden of proof of benefit is way higher than the average person knows.