People get mad at me for thinking it's morally better to adopt than to jump through hoops to concieve your own child. There are actual children already alive who need a home. It's wasteful to bring new people into the world when there are already children in need. If you can't love someone else's child as much as your own, you shouldn't be a parent. I'm not saying nobody should have their own children ever. If you get pregnant and you want children, by all means, keep it. I just object to going to great lengths to conceive your own child when you could give a home to someone in need.
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Adopt, don't shop, even when it comes to humans.
Religious indoctrination is child abuse.
Sending your kids to places of worship or a religious school, or telling them "this is our religion", is child abuse.
This includes christofascists and oppressed minorities.
I'm on the fence as to whether telling your child they are a girl or a boy is similarly harmful.
Not a serious one, but my hot take is that helping people move is fun!
Alot of people complain about it, but think about it. You get to spend quality time with friends or family, get a little exercise, teamwork, and usually at the end of the day you get to share a well-earned meal together
Helping people is fun. Moving is hell.
Moving is actually fun when you're a kid who doesn't really have attachments to any of your peers at school and you have no responsibility to help move things so you just get to chill and watch the process while daydreaming about your new home.
Like the novelty of moving is soooo awesome!
Then the "honeymoon period" is over and you find out your new school is less diverse, less people who look like you and there are more bullying. :(
"Money" isn't needed and there are enough resources available on earth so no one goes without.
I would say money is still a good way to keep track of things but we have enough resources that we should be living in a post-scarcity society with universal basic income
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