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For me, it was always through work. Meeting co-workers after work, and meeting other people that way.
You do need to make an effort, though, instead of excuses.
This really needs to be said more often, I don't know what's going on out there but I see this "I can't make friends" sentiment all over the internet, but out in physical space people aren't just going to "click" with you, you have to put in effort, use judgement if you're putting in the right effort for the right company, and you have to decide what you're setting aside to invest in this goal.
"I don't have time to do ____" surely applies to a lot of people and situations, but in my time coaching I always had to tell people that you don't get good at something without making the time to actually work towards it, and making that time is always going to be a you problem. You have to decide if that 2 hours you spend "unwinding" after work is really doing you more good than hanging out somewhere and socializing or even just trying new things. You have to look at your situation critically; how much time are you spending on things you're just addicted to in some way, but aren't really helping your life?
I get being tired, we're all fucking tired. But it doesn't fix itself, all you can really do is force your body and brain to adapt to new kinds of stimulus and activity, which it will readily, you just can't have both... you can't spend all your spare time gaming or scrolling and expect you're going to also be able to instantly shift gears if someone calls you up to go have dinner or play airsoft or go hiking or something. Not that they will if you spend all your time gaming and waiting.
Yep. I'm exhausted after work, but when I spend some time after work biking I find I'm less exhausted after work once I've gotten used to it. Then add social events and yeah, I might need a day of rest regularly, but I also need to get out and do stuff regularly.
Also, learning to flirt is hard and vital. You will make an ass of yourself. Eventually though you get good at it. I'm an awkward dweeb with crap social skills, and yet after learning to flirt and years practicing I've managed to find myself making out with strangers on nights out every once in a while. The vital addendum is learning to chat with strangers and have a good time without it going further. Once again, awkward weirdo, but I've had so many lovely evenings out chatting with people I may or may not see again. It's fun and results in a good reputation.
This is really key. It's fun to spend an evening getting to know someone! And if that's your only goal for a date - you're probably going to have more of a good time than not.