For that, I am genuinely sorry. It's not your fault that I'm dealing with some shit and it's completely on me for not compartmentalizing better.
Yeah, all good man. I didn't take offense too much or anything, I have a pretty thick skin as long as somebody seems like they're coming from a good place which it absolutely seemed like you were. I was just honestly confused by it because I thought I was mostly agreeing with you. I looked back over my stuff and I feel like maybe the way I led off the very first reply ("witch hunt") sort of brought in a disagreeable or combative tone, that's all I could really arrive at, but in any case, yeah, I think what you're saying are good valid points.
Moreover, it feels kind of like you're putting that work on me. Like a lot of your comments feel like they're saying that I should have thought about that ahead of time and planned it into my post.
Naw, not at all. I think a lot of this is going to get handled (if at all) by the lemmy.world team, this is just you and me sort of pitching stuff into the suggestion box as outside observers / non dentists as you said in your later analogy. Me saying "this is how I see it" doesn't at all mean I was trying to put something on you for not seeing it the same way or putting all the stuff I had to say about it into your thoughts about it beforehand.
In the tooth analogy, what I thought I was doing was "yes that one is bad, I think it may have come about because of diet and this is what I've observed as causes, and also look at this other tooth too, that one's less visible but there might be a really significant issue with it as well." I wasn't even weighing in on what should happen, since it's not really my or your decision, just kind of giving perspective on issues that I see and how they relate to this particular issue. But yeah not saying not to deal with this particular issue at all.
So again, I am sorry for how I had responded earlier. That's on me. But that's probably the best way I can word what I'm thinking. Sorry <3
All good man, I'm completely fine about it from my end
Honestly, if you ask me I think the whole of moderation should be opt-in. Maybe the default set of "people who are allowed to remove content from my feed" matches exactly with how Lemmy does it currently, but then you can always override it (or add to it for that matter) according on your preference.
This whole model where "the app author" / "the server admin" can override content for "the hapless user," and the user has to have these whole stupid endeavors to come before the operators and community "owners" and beseech them to change their experience, is just a silly design.
It's not trivial to make that happen within Lemmy, of course, but it's also not some kind of crazy pipe dream rewrite. If some moderator is removing trolls and CSAM, then fine, but if they start policing people's allowed political views or making dumb decisions, then the users can as a whole just go "lol no" and disable them from controlling the communication they as individuals are allowed to decide they want to receive. That's what makes sense to me. All this stuff about how to beseech the operators to make things more amenable to us, because of their gracious acceptance praise be, is just kind of faffing about trying for a lesser evil.