Nulliza

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I'm not strong, I just didn't have a choice in c/transmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Nulliza@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago

I'll third it. A friend of my uses "dude", ofc no ill intent, says it to everyone and really does mean it in a gender neutral way. I never expected to have such a gripe with it but it really fucks with your head

[vent] self referral rejected in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Nulliza@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 days ago

Also, if anyone has any information on the private health care and if they can speed things up in any way id be very thankful. I thought they couldnt do anything in this situation but reading through the other comments it seems like they might?

[vent] self referral rejected in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Nulliza@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Hi, fellow swede here going through the same process, luckily i had another therapist who could refer me to the right person. However, heres the general outline of what you need.

You need a "remiss" from your health center to a special therapist that can determine whether they should actually send another "remiss" for a gender dysphoria evaluation. Not every therapist is allowed to send that apparently. Gender dysphoria is a required diagnosis to actually get help and only a limited amount of teams can actually do that evaluation.

You can always change your health centre on 1177 if they refuse to send the initial one but that might include more wait time before you can actually get in contact with them. Also, do remember, the current government has ruined the waiting queues for health care in general but trans care is especially fucked, worst case ive read is 6 years before an evaluation and then you havent even started or planned any treatment yet.

We do have "vårdgaranti", dont forget that, which means if youre in queue for over 6 months you can ask any other clinic on the country that is allowed to do the evaluation to take you in, cutting the queue times if youre able to travel. I dont know how this affects costs though, you might have to pay for the visit then.

I wish you all the best of luck friend! Hopefully we can both get the help we need ❤️

Wake up, we've got a CEO to kill in c/lemmyshitpost@lemmy.world
[–] Nulliza@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I always play as female characters in any game. Turns out i was just trans all along. Who couldve seen it coming? 🤷‍♀️

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I love my friends (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

I didnt know who to share this with so Im posting here because my hapiness is going through the roof!

I fell into a burn out/exhaustion/depression spiral last year. About 2 months ago I felt decently back on track after alot of help from a therapist. During this time Ive met some online friends who has had an enormous impact on my life and I love them so much for it.

After talking with them and my therapist I finally decided to come out as trans to my partner. They took the best way I couldve imagined and are super supportive and helpful, and so are all of my friends.

The day after coming out i decided to shave off my beard of 10 years. Unsure what was hiding beneath I prepared for the worst as Ive never liked my face or body (repressed dysphoria maybe, who knows). After I shaved and I let out my hair again (long, lucky, juicy hair haver) I for the first time saw that my face was never meant to masc, but holy fuck it was meant to be fem. All of my friends where so nice and I was just in shock at how everyone indivdually agreed that alone would count as passing ❤️😭

Fast-forward to today, my partner helped me pick out and order more feminine clothes some days ago and they got delayed. I was pretty bummed out because a weekend home alone is a rarity for me and would be a perfect opportunity for me to try things in my own pace. As a cope I stole one of my partners sweaters, nice and cozy, dark blue with puffier arms and a high cut neck.

I decided to shower and shave again (i pray for all my girlies bc i was in for a shock with how fast it grows) but only managed to shower before I had to head out and get food. Once I eventually got to shaving my hair was still damp. So I go about shaving and let down my hair. The absolute curls along with everything else just looked so good. For the first time in my life I could tell myself that I looked so goddamn pretty. I immediately had to hook up my webcam and join in the vc again. BECAUSE I FELT PRETTY! I CANT GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD! I got so showered in compliments I didnt know what to do. Fuck I love my friends so much ❤️

This really cemented every doubt in my head. So much of my worry about whether I really am trans or not just gone. I had a face-to-face with myself in the mirror just telling whoever that woman was how beautiful she is, until I eventually realized THATS ME and started actually calling myself beautiful instead.

TL;DR:

My cat must be thinking im going crazy.

Tips for new transfem people? in c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
[–] Nulliza@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 weeks ago

Actually a good idea, might get on that 🤔

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Tips for new transfem people? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

Hello everyone!

I just recently came out to my partner as possibly (probably) trans. Everything has gone well and they and our closest friends are very supporting and caring. I couldnt really have had a better opening up I feel like.

Now, I feel like this has been a long time coming. I have never really felt comfortable with who I was ever since I was 12-13, I am 26 now. I have never had the space, surroundings or environment to explore or talk about this until now so I've had a lot of time to think and feel.

I am pretty sure I am trans but Im still not a hundred percent. I know she/her pronouns resonate well with me and I feel very good when wearing feminine clothes and showing a more feminine side that otherwise has been repressed. My partner helped me order some clothes the other day and I am very hyped to try those out.

Theres alot to think about and things I want to try and do, but I wanted to ask you all. What are your experiences, lessons or tips from your journeys? Is there anything I or maybe others in my situation could learn from?

Happy to hear anything and everything you want to share ❤️

Good rulening sunshines 🌞 in c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone