Alternate advice given by my farmer grandmother: form as many connections as you like regardless how deep they run, because your social connections are important. But know that everything probably has an expiry date, no matter how well you keep it, like dairy. Give your love freely, take the love given to you freely and without question, and understand that everything is temporary. Even dairy.
Maybe it was just commentary on dairy. Idk.
That’s a super healthy way to look at it, so I’m genuinely happy for you, even if it’s not a totally ideal situation :) Learn how to just exist as yourself, learn what works for you and doesn’t, and approach new things in the future with that refreshed understanding of who you are today
I am super sorry to hear that friend. I’m almost 40 and in largely the same boat other than the whole different country thing, so I feel that quite heavily.
At least you have more than enough time to come back from it and whatever.. not that it helps right now of course, nothing does.
-hugs from a stranger-
What are they doing with the heavy metals? Building a new society? Can I join? I can probably collect a lot of heavy things.
I understand that very much. “I’ll let you do x” is not the same thing as “let’s do xyzabcdefg together as equally invested beings”
I’m glad that you and they are in better places; the stones that pile up on your side make you the mountain you are. :)