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I mean, I'm anti-meds for treating exogenic issues when something can be done for those exogenic issues.

If I'm sitting at home with the heater on and I start feeling warm and flushed, I wouldn't take an ibuprofen (as an anti-pyretic) to bring my temperature down, I'll turn the heater off.

It's the same for mental health, if the sole source of the stress/sorrow is external, medication is nothing more than a bandaid, which is better than nothing if the exogenic influence is outside your individual control (which it often is)..... But we are at a point where the majority of people with mental health issues are experiencing a level of exogenic influence and there are enough of us that if we organised we could change the factors that are causing or worsening our mental health symptoms.

So it bears talking about, is medication always appropriate?

Medication is important, especially for endogenic conditions, and medication is life saving. But if you have exogenic depression and the meds aren't working, the new prescription is protest.

This is what is breaking my mental health.

Life is not guaranteed to be good, nature is cruel and has no rhyme or reason. People die and suffer in horrific ways every day because of nature.

Why the fuck are we adding to that cruelty!?

The chaos of the natural order of the universe sucks and you've got to learn to cope with that. But I've always found that side of life easy to accept because it is so inevitably universally unavailable.

I was born with a genetic illness, it causes lifelong disability due to structural deformity, but can also just randomly cause fatal aneurysms in young people. That's nature, that sucks, but hey, what are you going to do? Figure out how to do what you need to do to live and live it.

But then I'm born into a country with no disability discrimination laws, and no right to access laws. Fortunately we had public healthcare and public disability services, and public welfare services, and when I was younger a disability act was finally brought in (though it's often just lip service)

Growing up I felt safe and secure knowing I had a good social support system...but the public disability services shut down and was replaced by an insurance model, the public healthcare has been functionally split to a semi public copay system and a private paid system, and the welfare pension is so far below the poverty line that people on a disability pension don't earn enough money to meet the eligibility for public housing.

(yes, You can be too poor, for public/social housing.)

And it's one thing for law and legislation to lag behind the needs of the people, it's another thing altogether when an individual or small group of individuals in power systematically impose laws to remove the support and resources you used to have, for barely no more reason than "they want to".

I can't help but feel that a significant portion of my suffering is the result of the few people in the local conservative government that shut down the public disability service providers because it was "costing too much" .... Even though the insurance model they replaced it with costs the government more and supports less people than the previous system, and supports them less effectively.

And how do you live with that?

Like it's one thing for nature to have cursed me to suffer, but a human being heard my story, and countless stories like mine, and still said "nah, fuck em" when it came to vote.

We are living with psychopaths and sociopaths in complete control over our lives. The suffering is happening for a reason, and the reason is that those who are causing the suffering are enjoying the situation (because it gives them money, power, influence, or straight up sadism)

How the fuck do you reconcile that and "learn to sit with your emotions" in one CBT session and in the very next session my therapist is going to teach me about "enforcing my boundaries".... How do I enforce my personal boundary to get the homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic and ableist government to stop abusing me? Oh, I don't, I sit with that emotion.

I can't afford the pills they recommend.

Wow I completely forgot Lemmy existed for a full fortnight, I'm sorry I accidentally ghosted your comment!

I'm currently using Reef 50+ SPF sunscreen oil.

I swapped to sunscreen oil instead of cream last year after I started using an oil based toner and realised that I prefer the slick oily feeling of actual oil over the sticky greasy feeling of sunscreen creams or the drying chalky sensation of mineral sunscreens like zinc.

I am myself on the hunt for another brand of sunscreen oil, because Reef is coconut oil based, and I have a friend who's deathly allergic to coconut, so if I'm hanging out with her I need to swap back to the gross greasy 1L bottle of Bunnings sunscreen that's probably expired but it's what I've got.

And I'm worried I'll forget one day and kill my friend by hugging her while wearing sunscreen.

I'm on board!

I'm a big fan of the word cunt in all of its current uses it's my preferred slang term for my own, though it's rare to find someone who's not taken aback by that in the bedroom.

Would it be a grammatically consistent pronoun? "oh, someone left cunt wallet, I hope cunt come get it" or do we need a cunt/cunter situation? So cunt can collect cunter wallet.

The way the OP phrases it rules out trans men who have vaginas, trans women who have vaginas, and a bunch of cis women who've had certain pelvic traumas or cancers and therefore don't have vaginas.

What he's trying to say is "if you were born with a vagina and you align with it" which is actually still funny because I was born with my vagina, I like my vagina, I'll be happily keeping it even after all my surgeries....but if this OP saw my face he would put me in the "trans man" bucket because they lack nuance around identity.

You need to get big into two tone ska, then the fedora is socially acceptable again.

partners they could hypothetically reproduce with

"fertile women"

"women capable of pregnancy"

Outdated, slight red flag option: "gynephile"

Or you could even try "I find women attractive and would love to have kids with the woman I love one day"

There, language isn't that hard.

I love that half of these are fully gender neutral terms of endearment in Australia 😂

Can we trade? Every year I ask for socks, sunscreen, and cash, and I get useless stuff that is so lovely but so useless to me.

I've got a luxury nail care manicure set for Christmas this year that I'll be hauking as soon as my family blink so I can buy some sunscreen for myself for Christmas since I'm out and I need it.

It's a thoughtfully misguided gift - they know I go to get "treatments on my hands" and they keep thinking this is at a spa, so a kit to do it myself at home is a thoughtful gift to help me save money.

Except that I've explained thousands of times "it's medical treatment, at a physiotherapist clinic, for palsies, not relaxation treatment, at a spa, for pleasure"

I can't even really use the manicure set by myself because of the palsy.

For my actual nails I just bite, and occasionally file them... like a normal guy.

I was made redundant this year in November, so I need cash and socks, not a manicure set.

I hate feeling so ungrateful towards gifts. But I really do feel like they've gifted me guilt, when I asked for socks.

See this way of thinking has actually landed me in a pretty bad place with my mental health.

"I'm in charge of my own emotions" is not something an autistic person with rigid lines of thinking should internalise, but I did.

As a result I never gave myself permission to feel negative emotions, because who wants to feel negative about anything if they don't have to?

It seemed so smart and healthy, just be happy, that's what everyone always says about the easy fix to mental health. It was easy too, regardless what was happening around me, if I pictured myself feeling happy, I'd feel happy.

I'm in my 30s and regularly mistake sensations with other sensations (am I tired or do I need to pee? They both cause a headache) and also I think all my negative emotions are skipping my brain entirely and coming out my arse in the form of IBS.

I can't picture myself feeling sad to experience sad because I .....don't remember what sad feels like.

I remember what vomiting feels like, because that's how my body has reacted to "sad" recently.

what were you doing this whole time

Assuming it was this hard for everyone else and I was just really, really, inexplicably bad at this....so I'll work harder to overcome my personal shortcomings!

Undiagnosed thought: "I'm always forgetting my important things, this is really difficult"
Society: "everyone forgets things"

Undiagnosed thought: that fluorescent light is so incredibly loud and the way it flickers is creating this strange rainbow effect on my computer and it hurts my eyes and I'm really struggling here.
Society: working in an office sucks, the lights, the distractions, it's normal to have unfocused moments.

You repeat enough of these thoughts - I feel like I'm struggling with my emotional regulation, could it be ADHD? Well as a teen it was hormones, as a uni student it was "freshman anxiety", then I was getting divorced so my emotional state was blamed on that, then I was always moving house so it made sense that my mood was always a hair trigger.

There were always just enough environmental factors to mask the underlying condition.

And it works! Until you burnout in your 30s because no one else is actually giving 150% all the time.

I did the same with a physical illness! I was born with a hip deformity so my whole life any pain or issues around my hips was just totally brushed off until I got aggressively assertive in my 20s because with the physical symptoms I was able to feel more confident in my perception of my reality and advocate to my doctor (where as with mental health, it's harder, sure I think I feel this symptom but it's in my head it's fleeting what if I'm remembering experiencing my own thoughts wrong? Years of describing how I feel to therapists, being told it's nothing out of the ordinary, so I've convinced myself it's nothing, but it's not nothing)

Turns out I had nerve damage in my spine the whole time, but we all just assumed I was being overly dramatic and sensitive about the known hip issue.

Same with my ADHD. We all (myself included) thought it was just really bad anxiety in addition to me being bad at sticking to the homework for therapy so it made sense I wasn't getting better.

But we know more about how it presents, so if I was a kid going through the process again I'd be less likely to be misdiagnosed in the first place.

Wow, it's almost as if other places exist and had different responses to covid.

A quick google would reveal that police were used to enforce lock down measures in places such as UK and AUS.

Victoria Police alone gave out 39,985 covid lock down violation orders in the 2.5 years we had lockdown orders in place.

The Engagement party fined we all remember. Idiots.

General lockdown law breaking

Including such crimes as, playing video games with 3 people in a lounge room, and having 9 people over for dinner.