I'm a white flag because I have given up.
this post was submitted on 21 May 2024
3 points (100.0% liked)
me_irl
7036 readers
295 users here now
All posts need to have the same title: me_irl it is allowed to use an emoji instead of the underscore _
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
That's how I got into the majority of my relationships! I realized that I had like no game whatsoever and I just stopped trying, and weirdly enough that seemed to work okay.
I really dislike the current use of red flag. Seems it's used for any personality trait one doesn't like instead of being an actual red flag. I think people who freely use the term red flag are judgmental and thats a big...red flag...
What do you think red flag means other than incompatability? It's not like the usage has changed, it's always been meant to signify "I don't like this about you".
I don't disagree with you about judgemental people overusing it, though. But that's just judgemental behavior in general, I think you might just not like judgy people - which is fair.
I use to think a red flag was a telling sign that someone isn't who they say they are, borderline psycho or have other underlying issues such as being abusive or manipulative.
That makes no sense though, so a green flag is 'thing I like about you' and a red flag is 'you are a lying manipulative and abusive sociopath'??
I think this may just be your interpretation, I'm 30 and I've literally never heard it used to mean this.
I worded that poorly but I said it was a telling sign, like a warning. Maybe the person spreads rumors or compulsively lies. Granted, it's always difficult to spot signs of true manipulators when you are the victim. But you're probably right though, it might just be my interpretation.
I met the new intern who's going to deal with my meds prescriptions for the next 6 months, omg she's so cute it hurts. So here I am, explaining to her everything that is wrong with and why I'm a train wreck... It hurts
She can fix you.
Let's be honest, I think 90% of people are truly undateable. We just let our sex drive distract us from that.
Sounds like something a red flag would say. What are you doing this Saturday night?
Uhhh probably just wallowing in misery like usual
Sounds boring. But probably correct.