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At 15, on my first job. There were 3 others in the same position. I finished first, perfectly, while they goofed off. Told the manager, all excited. She had me clean out a closet while I waited for the others to catch up. It was a real defining moment.
The best thing is that this is true in every job. Your reward for being 15% more productive than everyone else is an extra 5% in wages. Sometimes not even that.
In my late 30s, still doing it. I don't expect to be rewarded though, I just want to toil away without being a dick to people around me.
Thank you
In my late 30s I realized I could work a little less hard, ask for support, and ask for what I wanted without expectations. It's an improvement so far.
In my early 30s and after the constant flow of assholes fail upwards and get promoted ahead of me, I decided to set fire to the world and did a Office Space.
That constant directness led me to run a department.
30s. Earning well, no issues yet.
Being good to the people around me and those in my community isn't an act. It's just how I feel I should be.
I now work on projects I'm passionate about, and spent years prior swinging a tool.
Everyone's path is different. I was lucky, but I didn't act a certain way because I was trying to put up an act. It's just how I conduct myself.
Lucky af here too. None of the “work sucks” stuff ever realllly resonates with me. But I sympathize all the same. Just happened to get super lucky in most every way. We need to do better for the majority, but even an evil system ends up working well for some folks (perhaps only a privileged few). So, caution people on blanket “absolutely everything sucks, trust no one!” kinda thinking.
I teach for a living, yet I never learn.
Ok but if I'm even slightly mean to someone they try to screw me over for the rest of my life. Meanwhile, I see people getting away with it. I need a tutorial on being an asshole that people tolerate.
You have to make sure you're only being an asshole to people who're seen as beneath you. If someone above you both likes that person better than you're going to get fucked. They on the other hand can be an asshole to you with impunity.
Kiss up, kick down. That's how it's always worked.
I don't condone it, because we should be kissing down and kicking up, but the rich people don't want it that way.
Not yet. I'm still a college student and need good employer letters of recommendation.
My plan is when I graduate is get offers from a bunch of companies, and then start a bidding war among them.
Let you know when it happens.
For the most part the more active and nicer you are the happier you will be. Yeah yeah you get taken advantage of, you know the same result if you are a lazy asshole.
Your insurance company is going to deny your claim, your stuff is going to break down, you will be ripped off, you will be injured, you will be robbied, and eventually you will die. All of this stuff will happen in your existence and there is fuck all you can do about it.
What you can do is stay active and stay giving. You can surround yourself with people who very much want you to be happy in life and your happiness almost completely depends on it.
So go ahead and make your decision. Do you want to pass judgement on a world that doesn't care what you think about it and rot with whatever pathetic little you have or do you want deep connections and a lifetime of achievement.
While I don't fully disagree with this, I do disagree with the happiness being dependent on this, as that is highly subjective and is not true unanimously.
Why tell me? Tell all those shrinks and psychology professors who have been doing endless studies on this for a century.
Turns out Aristotle was right all along. Took us like 25 centuries to relearn it.
I tell you because you are the one that actively brought this point to a place of discussion.
Fine. I would start reading with the PERMA+ model
I'm aware of it. Although I am starting to lose belief that positivity is how you operate, strictly judging from your responses. Nonetheless, have a nice day.
Don't think I made any claims about myself
Your statements in your original post are enough to go on, I'm not here to insult, just an observation.
33 - After burning out from taking too much on 😅