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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ox15GU4cMes this video changed what I thought about gamergate. I wonder how history would unfold if the anger remained directed at the establishment rather than at furthering the left right divide.

I used to think US police were probably good guys making the right call most of the time. When something fishy hit the news I tended to think "they must have had a reason."

Then there was the killing of Walter Scott.

That put a crack in it for me, but it was 2020 that really spun me the rest of the way around. And not just George Floyd himself. It was how police conducted themselves during the protests - every day I saw clips of cops escalating or being brutal to protesters. And several more high profile cases of police brutality happened during the same time. I admit I can't remember a lot of the names now but I remember them - the kid with the sandwich shot in the back as he tried to enter his home, the guy with the phone in his hand shot in his friend's garage, the old woman who had her arm dislocated and was then mocked while the cops replayed the video and bragged about it. And others... And always it was that the cops were shown to be liars by video evidence.

I ended 2020 with the view that I believe nothing cops say about any situation without video evidence to back them up. I will never again assume they "must have had a reason" or assume they are making a good faith effort to be truthful. It's been far too consistent that every time there is a controversy, a video makes liars out of them.

I used to be a dyed-in-the-wool optimist. Now, I'm an avowed cynic, and most people don't realize it because I'm generally a cheerful person and that serves to mask it somewhat.

My entire adult life has corresponded to the regressive post-9/11 loss of economic and civil liberty that has drastically impacted the poor and working class in America.

Thing is, I truly believed in Obama. I went to a rally where Michelle spoke in September 2008. In late October, Obama dropped by for a rally, and there were so many of us that the organizers had to cut the line off and we had to sit on a nearby hill and just listen. I was 100%, absolutely certain that real, lasting change was coming.

But nope. Our two wars became seven. (That we know of.) Occupy was brutally crushed by the NYPD with Obama's tacit approval. Police became militarized, even after Ferguson. Torture continued and the War on Terror continued unabated, despite Obama having a mandate to end it. No one from Wall Street that crashed our economy for profit went to prison, even though a foreclosure crisis followed. Life began to become unaffordable and the minimum wage stayed at $7 an hour. Despite having the votes to universalize health care, Obama made it more expensive instead. The cherry on top was that Obama gave us Tom Homan.

All of these problems have continued and worsened in the decade since 2016, despite both parties having total power for years at a time.

Now, no matter who we elect at the federal (and mostly state) level, I know things are never getting better.

My only power is local. Thankfully, my city is doing good things, so there's that, but if I had the money to do so I'd leave this country completely and reside abroad instead.

I was born and raised in the deep south (U.S.) surrounded by conservatives. I retired in the south with 98% conservative colleagues. I spent 50 years turning the other cheek to conservatives, being patient, using the Socratic method, being a good son, a good grandson, a good brother, good friend and good neighbor to conservatives. Then Trump came along.

I now see how absolutely short-sighted and naive I was thinking the arrogant, unintelligent, bigoted, hateful, grinning monsters all around me could ever possibly become kind humans. Conservatives are exactly as evil as they appear. It's not an illusion and they will never change.

Conservatives are biologically unable to experience empathy. This core understanding of conservatives explains so much about them. Their relationships are shallow because deep connections require empathy. It explains why bigotry and cruelty comes so easily to them. It explains how they can literally brag about killing a puppy and receive positive feedback from fellow conservatives.

I will never trust a conservative again as long as I live. I cannot unsee how genuinely cruel and evil they are and I can no longer be misled to believe they can change. It took a lifetime, but I understand what they are now and I am appropriately horrified by them.

literally yesterday a book changed my mind about how much alcohol I'm comfortable consuming

since I've started getting horrible hangovers in my 30s I've limited myself to 1-2 drinks in one evening, once a month or so, and that worked for me

the book detailed how alcohol absolutely wrecks your sleep. yeah i think I'm done drinking for the rest of my life now lol

Israel.

I used to support Israel, until I heard about them executing children in Gaza.

When I first learned that people were transitioning their gender, I was very much "live and let live," but took exception at having to call people their preferred pronoun. It seemed like a rigged game to me, like they wanted you to guess at what their gender is, and if you got it wrong, you're a bigot.

Then my wife was like "what harm does it do to call them what they prefer?"

And I thought about all the hurtful names people teased me with at school, and how I wished they would've just called me by my name.

So I said "OK," and that was that. It hasn't been as hard as I thought to recognize what people wish to be called. Unless you're dealing with a "they/them," then they gotta tell you. Or if you're dealing with a butch lesbian that dresses boy-ish. On those occasions, I just try not to use any pronouns or talk to them extensively for fear of messing up.

I stopped being religious a few years ago. I was a christian universalist, but I genuinely do not want to be associated with Christians or Christianity. As far as im concerned, they sold the farm to back a murderous pedophile.

I used to believe I had an ex-girlfriend in Chicago, but once that person came out as nonbinary trans with he/they pronouns I now know that I have an ex-boyfriend/ex-theyfriend in Chicago.