me_irl

Yeah we English speakers have really bent our dicks out of shape over simple things like this. Most languages have specific grammars hard-coded to these situations to express various levels of politeness or urgency.

English, it's always been "Nah, we're more direct. Just say what you mean and mean what you say and it will avoid confusion."

But now everyone is so hypersensitive to the slightest hint of possible hostility or demandingness, that it's getting harder and harder to communicate normally.

Like, I shouldn't need to shroud what I say in half a dozen layers of qualifiers and mitigating language just to tell you this isn't a command and you can make of it what you will. And even if I do that, people will accuse me of arrogance or something just for being so wordy or for "assuming" they needed me to tell them that's not what it is. Yet if I don't, then invariably they'll take it the wrong way anyway. So it's safest just to avoid human interaction.

It's really "damned if I do, damned if I don't," and I'm tired of walking on eggshells just to avoid rubbing someone the wrong way. Like holy fuck.