childfree

I have had people telling me "you'll regret not having kids when you grow up" all through my 20s, and now that I'm in my 30s I've only had more and more people ask me when my spouse and I will be trying for kids because "it's almost too late"

Since medically transitioning, a disturbing number of people have decided to butt in and tell me I should be storing sperm "for when you decide to have kids" and if I don't, then I won't be physically able to have them.

I've even had a couple of people (mostly one specific person) telling me after I inform them I had a vasectomy over a decade ago and my spouse had a tubal ligation at least 5 years ago, that vasectomies are reversible and "it doesn't have to be your wife" (my spouse is NB but seemingly nobody except the Trans people we know seem to remember that)

I find it funny that people with kids keep telling me specifically that I will regret not having kids and giving me their opinions, yet never once have I gone out telling new partners NOT to have kids.

Also hilarious is how people with kids get defensive about their decision and go on about how people without kids make it their whole personality.

And its always fun to guess if I'll see "well you people are creepy for making this one page I have only just found and decided it's all you ever talk about also here's an anecdote about how much I totally love my kids and never think like this" type comments before opening the page.

And honestly with so many fascist governments pushing us to have more kids for their meat grinders, climate change making the planet hostile for life, and everything being more expensive, it's a wonder anyone would voluntarily have children today.

I find it telling that every reason people try to give why "you'll regret having kids" is just selfish.

"Who will take care of YOU when you're older?" "Don't YOU want people to always be in YOUR life?" "YOU won't know love until YOU have a child." "Don't YOU want your bloodline to survive?" "Don't YOU want purpose in your life?"

I know this is a childfree community so all of you might dislike this comment, but I saw this post when looking at all posts, so here are my worthless two cents:

I think both desires (wanting kids, not wanting kids) should be considered equally valid, and both should be respected, without people trying to convince you out of your preference.

I never wanted kids. I have nothing against them but it really seems like something you really need to want to do or have a good reason for doing it. "Milestone" just wasn't doing it for me, and it didn't help I never met anyone remotely interested in having kids with me.

Please don't hate on me, I know the name of the community, I'm just trying to explain.

To me it's the same as saying "You look like shit after you exercise". Well, yes, but it kind of misses the point of it. I'm doing it for let's say "a greater good". Sure, exercising is hard and at times you want to say "fuck it" but in the end you're more healthy, skinny and you feel better both physically and mentally. Also I don't value my own comfort that highly - it's kind of fun to push myself actually. Sure I could eat fast food daily but - I know myself and I'd get bored and would try to find some new challenge.

To me it's the same with children. If you don't have these feelings, that's fine.

"A moneyless society will never work! How do I know? A billionaire told me of course!" Type Energy 😂🤣