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[–] almost1337@lemmy.zip 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And then you try to replay your entire train of thought from the last 5 minutes to try and get it back.

[–] gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And then your train of thought derails and explodes 🫠

Or just leaves me standing, bag in hand and bewildered, at the railway station.

[–] gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m in this picture and I don’t like it

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 6 points 1 day ago

Holy shit Regina George :333 what's up

[–] HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 18 hours ago

Recently been so stressed our brain has decided to give us DID (horribly oversimplified) and now this sort of thing just happens constantly on top of the ADHD. You get stuff like:

[A] What time is it?
[B] Good question.
(Checks)
[B] It's 1504.
[A] Ah oke
(Continues working)
[A] What time is it?
[B] Good question.
(Checks)
[B] It's 1506.
[A] Ah oke
(Continues working)
[A] Wait didn't we already check the time recently
[B] Now that you say that, I think we did, yes.
(Tries to recall what time it was last check)
[A] Motherfucker it's been 2 minutes 💀💀💀
[B] You dumbass.

So that's fun lmao (genuinely--keeps things interesting and also cozier which is a great turnaround from 150 heartrate panic attacks over stress) I'm stressed over some vague thing that happened 15 minutes ago and I'm gonna do my best to pretend that never happened and worry about it later thank you very much 💀

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

stop trying to make... what was i saying?

[–] TheGoldenV@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I made a point of trying to make a note of it in my phone. Went to find the phone and then forgot what the note was…

[–] frog@feddit.uk 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Go to my phone, open notes app. See that I have a text message/e-mail/Lemmy reply/Signal message. Reply. Go back to my notes app. Compeletely forgot what I was going to write.

I'm glad to see I'm not alone.
It's sad to see I'm not alone..

[–] scaryjelly@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

And it got fucking worse.

[–] supermurs@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Many times a day!

[–] BeN9o@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Go downstairs to do something, "hello doggo! Oh you need some fussin?? OK then" go back upstairs, "hang on a minute..."