Sometimes when a cat grooms another cat, it's nice. A cat helping another cat out, cleaning those hard-to-get spots on the back of the neck with a friendly lick.

Other times? It's more like, "Hey, I want that nice nap spot, and I'm going to annoy you until you give it to me."

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[–] TipRing@lemmy.world 34 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I have two females, 14 and 4, and the older female tried to passive-aggressively groom the younger one into moving out of the spot she wanted but the younger one was like 'jokes on you, I'm into this' and now she constantly bugs the older one to groom her face. This has gone on so long they defaulted to being best friends, even if the old lady is a bit of a curmudgeon.

[–] CorrenteAlternata@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago

Sounds like my best friend, she "bullied" me into loving her

[–] Fedizen@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

My cats (4 and 1 yrs old) have an almost identical interaction.

[–] Nurse_Robot@lemmy.world 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They also do it to assert dominance, which is hilarious to me

[–] alternategait@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Doubly hilarious is that rabbits receive licks/grooming in dominance. So if a cat licks a bunny, they both think they are the top.

[–] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What I'm hearing is that I need to get a bunny for my cat

[–] Fedizen@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Well it could also be the cat tryin to very slowly eat the bunny one lick at a time.

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

I’m glad this serves as explanation for the non cat people and vindication for the cat-havers.

What I didn’t see mentioned was grooming as a means to establish hierarchy. I’ve noticed mine have a sort of pecking order based on who grooms who. Like my momma cat will groom both her babies, and then one of those babies (grown now) grooms his sister and she’s kind of the runt/shy kitty. My other girl is not fond of being groomed by any of them as she’s much more independent.

[–] Fedizen@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Cats also do it to infantalize each other. "you are a filthy kitten and I'm doing this because you're my little bitch" which cats also play the "I'm just a cute wittle meow meow pls help" card so its never clear which or how they are manipulating each other than the complexity and range of their interactions.

[–] very_well_lost@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I have a cat that grooms passive-aggressively. If she doesn't think the other cats are up to her very specific grooming standards, she'll groom them until they are, (whether they like it or not).

[–] lemmysmash@piefed.social 4 points 1 day ago

Sometimes?