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Give me your worst, Lemmy! Absolutely nothing is off limits. Let’s get fucking weird!

I post this here because /c/iama doesn’t seem to be a thing…

Don’t hold back you jerks!

EDIT: It’s just about 05:00 for me. Night night! I’ll answer any other questions. In a few hours!

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[–] AlligatorBlizzard@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] pornhubfan@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Are you AVAB (assigned Vim at birth) or are you trans-editor?

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago

Definitely AVAB. I love working through a terminal. One cannot do everything on iTerm2 as one could do on a Debian distro, but it gets pretty close.

[–] DharmaCurious@startrek.website 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

What's the hardest part of being out as trans, other than the obvious transphobes? The subtle stuff most people don't think about, I mean.

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago

For me, the hardest part is trying to figure out where I belong. In Viet culture, at a party, the guys hang with the guys, and the girls with the girls. Even when I put a full face on, I never feel like I am one of the girls. It doesn’t help that everyone knew me before I came out. So I don’t fit in anywhere. It’s lonely. My sister Chi Man tries to help, but I am usually the odd one out. This has been going on for years now, so I have tried to make peace with it. This is a lonely life. With that said, I do not regret my decision to live as the person I am meant to be.

All I need in this life is my son and my best friend. That is enough for me.

[–] Kushan@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

What's the weirdest thing that's happened to you since coming out as trans?

Let's find the benchmark for making the questions weird.

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That is a great question!

I need to preface this by saying that my entire friend group is Viet.

In Viet culture, male and female roles are explicitly defined. That means that, generally, the girls hang with the girls, and the guys hang with the guys.

The weirdest part is kind of sad. I don’t fit in with the girls because I am not feminine enough, and the guys try to grab my tits as a joke. I don’t belong anywhere.

My best friend, Chi Man is the one that helps me stay grounded to this earth.

Otherwise, it’s the usual contract custodian doesn’t get a good look at me, so they warn me about going into the men’s room at work (where I was specifically told to go )

[–] Nonameuser678@aussie.zone 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Those guys sound like assholes and many would consider their behaviour to be sexual harassment/ assault.

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 years ago

Agreed. After I was raped the first time, my outlook on the world changed. This was a guy I met on Grindr, and I was not being safe at all. My big sis tried to warn me, but I just wanted to have fun like the cishet people do. I know SA is a big problem when it comes to casual sex and women. I never thought it would happen to me. That is what we all think.

The pigs never even contacted me after my rape-kit at the hospital.

Everyone, regardless of gender., should be careful out there. Remember that the pigs are not your friends; they exist as protectors of property and straight white people.

[–] Ziggurat@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Because the topic is NSFW : How did transition impacted your sex-life ?

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 years ago

That’s a great question!

Transitioning left me with a tiny “dating” pool. Most of my “dates” were with chasers on Grindr or Taimi.

Except for the 2 sexual assaults, I’ve been fine with serving my purpose. After the 2nd rape, though, I gave up on casual encounters and dating in general. I haven’t had an actual relationship with anyone in about 7 years.

I will likely never meet someone who likes me for me. It took me YEARS to accept this difficult truth. It contributes to my depressive episodes all of the time.

I’d rate myself as a 6/10 on a good day. It’s just really hard to find guys that are interested in me beyond the fetish that they see. It’s easier to give up.