Because no one I'm seeing in these comments is bringing it up, there is something to be said for wanting to do a thing yourself. Sure, if the goal is just orgasms, shove her on a sybian and go play video games. It'll be very efficient. However, if your goal is to engage in a shared experience where each of you is dedicating yourself to the labor of pleasuring the other in the most intimate way possible, even if it doesn't result in an orgasm, then the vibrator is not working toward your goal. Look at oral. Almost no person is going to orgasm from giving oral. We do it as an act of love, giving pleasure to a partner without pleasure being automatically recieved. A vibe will make your partner cum whether or not you are there. The genAI of orgasms, a machine producing using raw electric power what a person would produce using skill and emotion. Using it doesn't have the same demonstration effect. There is a special satisfaction in being the one who puts in the work to bring a partner to orgasm, and a special satisfaction that comes from being the one they are willing to put real effort into bringing to an orgasm. Which one matters more to you is subjective but this take is overly flattening while pretending to be enlightened.
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You can use a vibrator on someone, even integrate them into normal PIV sex. Sex toys are your teammates, not your competition. Then again I’m a lesbian and we don’t have as many hang-ups about using sex toys during sex.
That's just repeating the concept in the OP and ignoring my point. There is a value in the personal touch. Which would signal a better partner to you: a woman who knows you like to have food sometimes so she installs a vending machine in your apartment with all the options set to ice cream and the prices at 0.00, so you can always have as much of this one thing to eat, any time, any day, with or without her, as you like as long as you keep paying for power, or one who knows you like food, so she figures out what you like and dislike, learns recipes that she thinks will make you happy, spends time finding or growing good produce to make those recipes, and only when she's feeling ill or burned out by work, reaches for the vending machine? The vending machine is always there as an option, but not wanting to use it is not just weakness. It's often a desire to be the best version of yourself for your partner, not as a competition with the machine but a competition with the limitations of human language and form to express the inexpressible extent of your love.
OP, your bad photoshop has a million times more heart and soul than any AI image.
How rude; no need to insult the guy!
explaining the joke
(A million times more than zero is still zero. Bad photoshops are so much better than AI that the comparison defies being quantified!)
Yeah, i'll take a half or quarter assed photoshoped meme over AI slop any day. It at least has some soul to it
Bad human art has more soul and care than meaningless AI slop
Seeing people call every edited thing 'AI' even when it's not actually made with AI reminds me of how people used to call every edited thing 'photoshopped'
Uh... edited images are photoshopped. That's kind of what that word means, despite what Adobe's lawyers would like people to say.
Same
Bad photoshop my ass, that's some fine photoshop work!
I must agree though, I'd rather see some bad photoshop memes than AI slop.
This calls for the nuclear option.

those who fear sex toys get neither the sex nor the toy
Wtf did we evolve opposable thumbs for if not for tool use
grabbing branches probably.
Some use the tool, others just became tools
A man beingg afraid of a vibe is also a HUGE red flag
If you can't bring more to a relationship than an appliance can, then you've got to work on yourself.
I am man, and man evolved to use tools.
People who grew up on Nintendo, and specifically Mario Party in the early days, definitely have a particular set of skills though.
set of skills 😎 arthritis
I love this because I'm pretty sure it's why I (female) was able to beat my (male) ex at certain mini-games. Gotta rub the stick button back and forth really quickly? Oh honey, you have no chance against me.
Tragically few games use a rapid jerking motion.
Tears of the Kingdom to un-stick your builds
Ladies, is it off-putting if you take home a random guy and he brings his own vibrator?
I don't doubt someone has already said this, but it bears repeating
It isn't a competition. It's different pleasures in different ways
Maybe not to you but to the toymakers it very much is a competition
early on when i gave her one for xmas she was shocked (sheltered upbringing). to this day it by far the xmas gift she uses the most
This is not the kind of thing people say "on main", but I gotta say, holding your partner in your arms from behind while using this? Such an intimate experience.
Look at this person with a partner
You don't know her. She's from a different town. But she's totally real, I swear
"I know what you're thinking. 'Did he get me to fire six nuts or only five?' Well, to tell you the truth, in all this excitement I kinda lost track myself. But being this is a magic wand vibrator, the most powerful in the world and would blow your clit clean off, you've got to ask yourself one question: 'Do I feel horny?' Well, do ya, punk?"
This works. It's like watching an exorcism. I don't have a lot of achievements in my life, but this was a proud moment.
Apparently if you press it against the base of your dick, which won't make you cum btw, it'll turn your dick into a meat vibrator with great effect.
There are rings to make that more convenient.
Having used many toys the Hitachi Wand style is probably the worst. More likely to burn a clit off than give the desired result.
Do not apply directly to the clit. Apply adjacent to the clit.
Dude, a girl that likes a vibe? That's HAWT.