You just say that.
Please just say it.
I can work with that.
The alternative just winds me up.
this post was submitted on 27 May 2026
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The problem with that is that it is a difficult thing to express to people if you are uncertain how they will take it.
The only thing that can potentially alleviate the awkwardness is the experience of having done it enough that you understand how to navigate the social situation.
Yeah, I'm not gonna claim it's easy, only that it's preferable to the alternative.
Get wound, nerd
Please just say it.
The concept is just so far beyond my understanding, that i would never figure it out on my own. I wouldn't even notice something is wrong or different.
And there's nothing i can do to fix or improve a situation i cant even comprehend.
Sure but then I being hyper-analyzing my every action wondering what "energy" I'm giving off.
We're not supposed to do it?
'Supposed to' is a strong term, I just never get any answers I am either too dumb to figure out how my actions will be percieved or it is just impossible to control for other people's nerotic world views.
Don't make it about you. If you feel like the other person's energy is off, say so and ask if there's something bothering them. If there is something, great you've given them the opportunity to talk about it. If they don't want to talk about it or they insist there's nothing wrong, tell them you feel the need to lighten the mood, and suggest an activity that would work for that (watch a comedy, eat something, be in nature, etc).
This is why most of us just want honesty. Just say it.