Cis is pretty clearly defined, the words that follow are not necessarily clearly defined
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You'd think a hyper-individualistic society would involve people actually hyper-reflecting on and hyper-developing their own inner nature, but apparently no, its mostly outward signalling, little to no inner substance.
Am I reading this wrong or is the concept of being honest with yourself here literally represented as death?
Maybe its more accurate to just say we have a hyper-extroverted society, than a hyper-individualistic one.
Life lesson I learned from an actress playing a computer program playing a kindly old lady, in some movie, from around 20 years ago now:
Temet Nosce.
Know Thyself.
But doesn’t outward signaling need some inner base?
I find that to be a very interesting question.
In some ways, for some things, yes, in other ways, for other things, no.
Compare a baby screaming because it is hungry to an adult person who consistently finds themselves in abusive relationships.
They're both outwardly signalling something.
The baby is arguably barely conscious, but you as an outside observer are probably pretty sure that it either is hungry, needs to poop, is too cold or hot, etc.
The abused lover person... might actually actively, persuasively deny their current status, maybe even their past.
But an outside observer might be able to more easily see that they have just a very fundamental kind of low self esteem, lack of sufficient respect for themselves, on a level that the abused lover really just is not aware of, hasn't really ever concieved of.
I'd argue that the abused lover has significantly more complex of an inner universe than the baby... but both of them might be approximately equally unaware of the signals they are sending, why they are sending them.
So... to your question... yes, but also no, but also it can be quite complicated.
Am I reading this wrong or is the concept of being honest with yourself here literally represented as death?
I checked the author's page and it seems to me the floating skull has nothing to do with death, it's more like some inner voice of the other character, offering them a counterpoint:
Well, I mean... a floating skull seems to me to represent death.
Pretty general human cultural phenomenon of a skull representing death.
And... introspection... is portrayed as... talking to it.
Though I guess if there are this many panels of this kind of a set up... the author is likely using this as an established trope...
'Talking to your inner self isn't really that scary, even if it might look like it will be, at first glance.'
'Challenging or confronting your own inner workings may seem to resemble death, but it actually isn't.'
Taking what you're saying into account, perhaps it's a representation of the character's inner demons? Because I think your interpretation here is rather sensible:
‘Talking to your inner self isn’t really that scary, even if it might look like it will be, at first glance.’
‘Challenging or confronting your own inner workings may seem to resemble death, but it actually isn’t.’
Basically yeah, I would say your Jungian Shadow, but thats pretty close to the same idea as 'your inner demons'.
Its... maybe a little less total than like, wholly integrating the parts of you you don't want to acknowledge into a cohesive and fully self aware... self...
But it is a good way of showing how starting that process can feel and play out, acknowledging that it can seem scary, but can also proceed without catastrophe.
deadly earnest truth maybe?
Look, floating skull head face, you're the one who asked the unclear question.
Seriously. Having a spectrum makes this black and white expected response dumb af.
thinking is good though, back to the shadow realm with you
No, in a world where gender expression is straightjacketed and violence meets non-conformity it's very normal for even the normative to be unsure of where they stand, and we should count it as a blessing that any straight person feels the need to stop to give it thought. Please don't go pressuring people into accepting your assumptions about their orientation, your experiences and feelings are not theirs.
Completely agree. Self reflection, even if it doesn't lead to different conclusions, is highly beneficial and should be encouraged regardless of perceived gender or sexual orientation.
The world would be a bit better if we all had more introspection.
No, in a world where gender expression is straightjacketed and violence meets non-conformity it’s very normal for even the normative to be unsure of where they stand,
To paraphrase a meme, "I'm cis, so however I express my gender is cis, *slur redacted*"
I did a lot of exploration of my own identity and self discovery as a kid, and was very disappointed to find that I am cishet man and average in every way conceivable.
What a waste of my wonderful, accepting parents! I should at least have turned out as trans girlfailure bottom as a courtesy. Instead all I got was a clear view of what exactly my white privilege does for me.
Am I trans just because I sometimes would like to know how it would be to have a vulva? Or because I sometimes jerk off to women with dicks?
Am I gay because I sometimes fantasise about someone cuming inside my butt?
like to know how it would be to have a vulva
I see, you are asking the right questions.
Am I gay because I sometimes fantasise about someone cuming inside my butt?
have you imagined who’d do that?
I'm not trans and I still wonder what it would be like to have a penis. My male partner is straight and insanely attracted to trans women.
Depends, do you fantasize about a guy cumming inside your butt or a woman? Lol
It's a whole spectrum out there. Call yourself whatever makes you most comfortable.
I am pretty sure if we could just switch around at will, everyone but members of some religion would have tried both organs.
would have tried both organs
but what if I can’t decide on which one to keep?
Mmm maybe! The straight people I know well are pretty rigid in their sexuality though so maybe not quite everyone would take that offer?
I'm really bisexual and a domme/sub switch, so my feelings of wondering what having a penis would be like are tied to that somewhat for me
It would be such fun to be able to just....try out whichever genitals we want, whenever we want!
But how does one actually even know? It's not like someone shakes your hand and congratulates you, no flashing party lights, no balloons falling from the sky, when you ponder enough and suddenly figure it out.
There aren't any clear signs, just guessing. So it's not that unfeasible that person can keep pondering over it and never get closer to the answer.
When most people are cis, they don't think about cis and its definition at all. So when one raises the question about it, it's ok to take the time and try to ponder "what the fuck does that even mean?". The last panel puts pressure and casts doubt where there isn't a need. Has "it's just a prank, bro" vibes.
Sometimes it feels like i lucked out to be fluid, defaulting to non binary whenever gender becomes functionally non relevant (which is almost always)
It means i simply pass as gender normative, i also desired biological offspring which for me requires a long term cis relationship.
In most situations i feel like An opposite of the in the corner meme “they don’t know i don’t have a gender right now” but i feel real good about being some cool undercover enlightened gender weirdo, as opposed to a very obvious autistic nerd kind of weirdo. And actual gender naive cis people better watch out cause i will argue in defence of my queer siblings whenever the topic requires it.
You have gender dysmorphia because you feel like you belong to a gender different to the one you were assigned at birth,
I have gender dysmorphia because I want my body to conform even more to the one I was assigned at birth.
We are not the same, but I feel your pain.