It may pass, it may just be your new normal, but hormones work differently on everyone. I am envious though, because my libido, which was already not very high, was absolutely decimated when I started on E.
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Have you had bloowork done? It's possible that your t is too low.
Yeah i have an appointment coming up to talk about thw first month on progesterone, which I was hoping would help my libido, but hasn't helped, seemingly stopped my boobs growing, and probably gave me insomnia, which is weird as hell because I always see people talking about the opposite of all 3 happening when they start progesterone. Hormones are hard 😭
As someone with a host of endocrinological issues, you have no idea. Everyone is different :(
This is also what I'm thinking, @quantumgenderino@lemmy.blahaj.zone (great username btw). When I got on E + T blockers, the libido crashed like going down a cliff in a week or so. So happy with that.
From what I hear it’s different for everyone. In my case I’ve become extremely affectionate while my desire for penetrative intercourse (in any direction) has become super selective. I’ve also gained the ability to turn arousal on and off at will. Tho predominantly I just wanna rub my cheeks and cuddle everything.
yeah it's same for me.
for the first few months my libido was gone, but now its back but very different. estrogen horny is very different from testosterone horny and I think I get like that more because I love how it feels so much
It feels fantastic.
I'm so desperate for mine to return
Yeah it had same effect on me. My libido skyrocket way past it what it ever was before and it was high before too.
It's weird. I've been doing daily "maintenance" which is honestly a lot of work, but a couple of minutes in my partner's company and it's very much business as usual. Which is frustrating because opportunities don't often present themselves. So I'm doomed to wander round the house yowling.
Now I'm scared. @FQQD@lemmy.blahaj.zone beware
May Freya give strength to them.
Honestly, my libido decreased a lot. But there was a lot of external factors. Today with well romantic feelings and finding myself again, (and the start of progesterone - Maybe it changed something too) it is more than before hrt.
you doing progesterone with that estrogen? That being said estrogen may decrease libido but it's not guaranteed to.
Nope just E.
I started E 8 months ago and I've had zero libido since then
So if I'm not actually in the same room as my partner I don't notice it, but it's an all consuming hunger when she's there.
I dont have a partner so maybe that plays a part
Try reading some smut.
Nah im ace. im ok lol
I'm very much at the other end of the spectrum so I really don't get it, but I respect it.
Ah, ok, so, if it's ok and you wanna answer, I'd like to ask, did you have libido before the HRT? And did it actively stop when starting?
Yeah, not a lot, but I definitely had some libido. even before I knew what trans was, it has always bothered me to a fundamental level. I always hated it. And did not know why. it was just a nuisance
Basically immediately after starting HRT, my libido went to literally nothing and so far it is probably my favorite change
When I started HRT my libido went away almost instantly. I took the E sublingually, with spiro to suppress the T. The levels dropped unexpectedly quickly, at the 3 months checkup my T levels were at the bottom of the healthy range for women.
My libido has returned since both starting progesterone and reducing the blocker. Two changes in treatment, can't be sure which is responsible. Thankfully its manageable.
T suppression, especially from monotherapy takes time to ramp up. My guess is this is probably the result of you having high levels of both E and T, simultaneously, and will reduce in time.
Enjoy the libido for now if you're into that sort of thing!
It could also just be a mental thing. I've always been rabidly sex positive and don't suffer from bottom dysphoria and not much physical dysphoria generally. Testosterone horny made orgasms feel like a biological imperative or an addiction kind of like smoking cigarettes. They feel great when you have them, but going without feels life threatening (that feeling is gone). Whereas now it's more of an actual desire for emotional contact with another human. Not a need so much as a desire, but a powerful one.