Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
I bought my tucking underwear from tcomfits. They've even sent me free samples for upcoming products over the last year! They are functionally amazing, but not necessarily the cutest. For my bras, to save money while I figured out what worked for me, I purchased different brands and types from Nordstrom Rack.
I super recommend using this calculator for bra sizing. They even have a setting for transfems which was exactly what I needed as other methods of measuring weren't really connecting me with the right bras https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator.php
Wonderful! That really helps alot!
Depends, what are you looking for? What have you tried so far? If you specifically need tucking underwear, that's going to limit your choices. If you can instead tuck while wearing one or two pairs of underwear sized a bit small, then your options open up.
Check out LeoLines on etsy they have so many patterns to choose from.
Will do, thank you!!!
Just want to add my support for LeoLines, just know that different listings are only available on certain days, so check back throughout the week. They're expensive, but they're handmade, designed specifically for trans women, super fucking cute, and when I'm wearing them, I literally have no bulge. I can wear leggings, skinny jeans, etc and no one could possibly tell what parts I have. Without pants on, u can see the padding (make sure to get the padded version), but even without pants it's hard to tell! All u need to do is push the "stuff" down so it's like horizontal and underneath if u get what I mean. No tape tucking required! U will get used to the feeling of this kind of "tucking" with time, and honestly at this point I feel uncomfortable when I'm not tucked down there. Just be aware that it does cause more sweat lol. I'd get the cotton version personally, but iirc they have Lycra if that's ur jam.
They also sell handmade bras, but honestly I'd just go with some bralettes from somewhere cheaper to start out. U don't usually need to know ur band and cup size for bralettes, and they're usually available as small/medium/large/etc sizes instead of band and cup size. By design, they can accommodate a range of cup sizes, so u don't need to keep buying new bras as u grow! Personally, I got my bralettes and T-shirt bras from Pact bc they're a very environmentally friendly brand, and their stuff is all cotton (my skin doesn't like synthetic fibers). But just shop around and see what there is. U don't need bras specifically made for trans women unless u want a lot of padding to increase how large they look.
tomboyx is a place ive gotten nice stuff from
Loooooove tomboyx, I bought several bralettes from them years ago and I still wear 'em all the time
Thank you!!! This is exactly what I was looking for! Hopefully they keep coming out with more patterns
Duluth actually has some really cute sets.
Interesting, I never considered Duluth and buy all my work pants from them. I'll have to take a look