It was valentines day yesterday here in Sweden, which I didn't know at first.
I invited a female friend to fika at my place, I thought she was acting kinda stiff and was wondering why, then she asked "M, do you know what day it is today?" and I just said "uhm, Saturday?" and she laughed and told me it's valentines day.
I felt so embarrassed, I'm both not interested in her in that way and not in a place in my life where I want a relationship or even FWB or one night stands. I apologised and explained and she thankfully accepted and understood, still felt embarrassed and dumb though.
It was a nice fika though and I helped her figure out some personal stuff.
this post was submitted on 13 Feb 2026
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Single old dude here, some friends convinced me to go to Goth night at a local club on Saturday
I hope you can get a hot goth g/bf bro. Godspeed
take condoms bro
lol
I confessed to my situationship of almost 2 years that I had feelings the other day, she didn’t feel the same way. So probably not doing anything fun, all my close friends are in relationships and have plans for V-Day.
Probably journaling and watching YouTube all day unfortunately. It’s been a rough week.
However, I hope you enjoy your trail ride! What got you into horse riding?
The fact you confessed is a lot more than other guys in your position. Be proud you made yourself vulnerable and bring that confidence to the next person you are attracted to. You’ve got this king! 👑
Thank you for the kind words!
Despite how empty I feel, I am still proud of myself for finally getting that off my chest. I was wanting to ask for months, but held off because I was scared it wouldn’t work out. As soon as I asked her, I felt like a pallet of bricks was lifted off my shoulders.
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I'm going to keep up my tradition and send an unsolicited duck pic (yes, quack quack) to a friend.
Then going to the science museum with a different friend.
What kind of duck tho? I have some ducks, so you gave me introgued
I've no idea what kind of duct this is, I just thought it was a good looking duck.
It's a call duck! I love them!
- edibles
- lube
- goon
- shame
Sitting at home with my kids while my wife takes another course about horses. I think this time is for license to be a judge at competitions.
My partner and I are getting haircuts and beautifying ourselves before getting fuckin gakked on drugs all night at home with our cats. I’m very excited.
Edit: oh and eating pieces of sushi whenever we can throughout the night
I’m going out with a girl who confesses she always looks up to me and always feels at ease around me, even when I’m not saying anything.
Then, once I’ve finished playing that gacha game, I’ll drink a beer and go to bed.
Me and my partner are going a little punk rock show in a bowling alley.
that is both dope and fresh
My wife managed to get an appointment for an MRI on Saturday morning, so we'll be driving into the city for that on Valentine's Day.
She'll be in there, and I'll be sitting in the car with the service-dog-in-training, Leo. Someday I would expect him to go in with her, but he's not ready yet.
Then we'll come home and she'll fall asleep while I watch movies.
This right here is true love. Rock on.
Please give Leo a little positive attention on behalf of all of us Internet randos who appreciate a good dog doing good dog work, even the rookie ones.
We were supposed to go to a Mardi Gras parade with family, but thankfully they cancelled. So now we're awake early, have valentines day off together with no plans... and we're gonna go fishing for a bit. Packing a cooler now and about to head out, then we'll see where the day takes us! Just excited to have the day with my best friend (aka wife)
cry and masturbate
Nothing much, my wife and I don’t really care about the holiday. We might pull some wild duck out of the freezer for a nice dinner
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Wait for the better holiday, Feb 15th, aka cheap chocolate day.
I find some places now wait a few days to kick in the good sales. Then stagger it to by 25%, 50%, 75%, 90%
Its a game to figure out the sweet spot between discount and selection.
We got a hotel room with a hot tub. We'll go out for dinner, pick up some drinks, smoke some weed, and soak in the tub.
Probably going to rub one or two out and try not to cry.
Taking bae to the vintage computer fair this Sunday then getting dinner after
Taking bae to the vintage computer fair this Sunday then getting dinner after
That is the sexiest plan in this whole thread full of sexy plans.
I'm gonna make pancakes for my girlfriend before her shift, past that no idea were broke rn lol. also gonna make her a card today :)
You are a good person, keep it up 👍
The wife and I will be playing Project Zomboid all day. It's going to be glorious!
Same as every Valentine's Day: play video games until I pass out.
That’s nice, I hope you have fun 😊
I never celebrated Valentine’s Day unless my partner wanted to do something. This year I was going to bake a dessert and take some fun photos for my crush as a simple gesture but things haven’t been going well so most likely I am going to work and get some chores done instead.
Crying alone. 😭
Not much. I woke up to do some dragonboating while he slept in, and now he's just finished at the gun range and is going out for dinner with one of his best friends. I know where I sit in this bromance. 😭
Jokes aside, I know he loves me to death, but we don't really do anything for Valentine's day. His birthday was last week and we went on a day-long bike ride, had an epic sourdough sandwich half way through, and I surprised him with a travel pin board.
This afternoon, I have been reading, journalling, nursing sore muscles, and will be having a miso salmon bowl for dinner.
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